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July 26, 2005, 1:25 pm PDT
Hi SAndman
Quote From: sandman4uI think Kimikomine hit the nail on the head with her post. After watching porn stars do their thing, it gets same old same old after awhile. Men often go to teen sites because it's here that the young women are beautiful and natural, not made up or have implants. Often times there are also amateur video clips in these sites as well, which is different and more titillating than the obviously staged porn movies. It's natural for men to be curious about what women/teens look like underneath their clothes. It's been this way since the beginning of time! Even if they have a gorgeous wife, they will always wonder what other women look like naked. Porn viewing is an enjoyable activity thatdoes not reflect on how menfeel about their wives; rather it reflects on how they feel about sexuality and their sexual fantasies. If only women couldunderstand this! They think it's all aboutTHEM - and it isn't! HOw are you? Time away gave us all a chance to go on with our lives, huh? How is your summer? In reference to what you said about my porn becomming blaise after a while, different stimulation is usually preferred because even porn can become ho-hum. Just like when you are with the same person day in and day out.....even the best looking ones look average after a while. It's the nature of the beast and even though we can still love one another, the excitement wanes. From what I have seen in my long life of 44 years, is on any given day, our needs can go from one extreme to the next.....emotionally/physically. It is unrealistic to believe a "one" individual will be able to be what we want, when we want, them to be. I wish people could really be 100% honest with one another about what we need on any given day so that at least we know what the other person is really feeling. We are so afraid of the truth sometimes that we would rather live in denial and believe what we want. It's the only assurance we have of keeping things the way they are.....even if they are not really good for us or others. Not to get too philosophical....:) Back to sex.
I just want to say that I would assume most women do know their spouses' porn use has nothing to do with them and everything to do with the guy. I do believe most women get so pissy about it is because the guys that we are with, that look at porn, have phone sex, maybe even go to strip clubs once in a while, are anything but good lovers. The price of these guys getting their needs met outside of the relationship is creating a lack of lust in the relationships that we are in. Women, or at least in my case, would never be satisfied with just looking at porn in place of sex. When I look (ed) at porn, it might have given me the 20 -10 second orgasms, guaranteed, but what it eventually did do was make me want real sex even more. ie....I don't understand the mindset where a guy says "he does it to keep from having an affair" when in actuality, it drives me ( woman to seek it). Just my side. Take care.
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