Replies to 'Balancing Marriage and Family'
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September 9, 2005, 4:36 pm PDT
 Quote From: hsiuliwu I just got married in May this year. Instead of living as a happy couple, I have to fight for my husband spending more time with his dog. He has this dog for more than 4 years and the dog now is about 12 year old. He has the dog walk on the neighborhood without a leash. The reason for him doing that is because the dog loves to being walk freely at his own pece, which is very SLOW. At the same time walking with the dog, we have to watch out for other dog on the street. His dog will jump up front to bark or attack the other dog. Sometime the dog is tired of walking on the way home, he will pick him up and put the dog in his arm and carry like a baby. Whenever he works in the garage, in his office, front or back yard, he always brings his dog beside him. There are big pictures of the dog around the house. In order to have extra income, we rent one room out for a student. At the night time, my husband will leave our bedroom door not closed all the way so he can hear if the dog is barking or chocking at night. It is nice of him to care for the dog's safety. but I have trouble to have sex with him while the door is not closed all the way. I need privacy when I am in bed. I am a dog lover and I would be very hurt and disappointed in my husband if he told me I couldn't have my dog. In fact, we just got home from a vacation, and we ended up staying an extra 2 1/2 days casue of vehicle problems, Though I was having a great time with my family, I was devistated cause 13 days away from my dog was a hard thing for me. I was so home sick for him. It is ok, for one to love their pet and to accept him as part of the family. You and hubby need to work together on a game plan here, If you don't accept the fact that he loves his dog and that he feels that the dog is family, then you are the one with the problem but on the other hand, your hubby needs to be willing to make some compromises here, where does the dog usually sleep at night, maybe your husabnd can put a baby moniter where the dog sleeps and then you can close the door. You can also get nice furniture covers so the furniture doesn't get messed up. it may be a littel late for his dog but our dog knows that he is not aloud on the sectional couch but he is aloud on the other furniture, they can be trained. To leave a person becasue they love their dog is redicoulous. I personally am not a cat lover, they are cute and sometimes fun but I would rather have a dog, my hubby is a acat lover and he has his cat that he had before we were married, I would feel awful if I told my husabnd that he wasn't aloud to have his cat. Are you willing to leave the man you love over his love for his dog? Marriage is about love and respect and I beieve it also involves compromise so I think your best bet is to work together to come up with a solution that will work for both of you, it might take a while but getting all bent out of shape and upset isn't going to help any, so the issue here I think is are you willing to make sacrifices for the life of your marriage or are you goingt o let the dog come between you and destroy your love for this man, doesn't sound like he is going to give up his best friend and to be perfectly honest, I don't blame him. Maybe you should try loving the dog and paying attention to him and being his buddy as well and maybe your husband will be more willing to figure out a solution with out feeling threatened. be creative in your marriage and relationship as well, do you go out on dates? if not, maybe you should set up a date night and go out with your hubby, I am sure you can think of places to go and things to do where dogs are not aloud................... |
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