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September 8, 2005, 7:29 am PDT
Good intentions
Quote From: kcgoodsonI am 30 and have been trying to work it out with the mother of my children and it seems to go good until her family hers that we are talking or anything then they start yelling and screaming at her and telling her that we will never work, AND THEN THEY THREATEN HER THAT IF SHE COMES BACK TOME THEN THEY WILL DISOWN HER AND OUR CHILDREN. Then she goes into one of her rage states and calls me at work or where ever i am and starts yelling at me about everything and she will not talk to me for a day or 2 then we are ok and we kinda start up were we left off but his has to stop and i have told her i will never ask her to choose. with out just leaving everything alone and walking away can some one help me Sounds like your heart is in the right place. What everybody needs to keep in mind in a divorce situation is the welfare of the kids, and sadly that doesn't always happen. People too often get entrenched in the petty back-biting, revenge, and character assassination with the children caught in the cross-fire.
Have you considered getting some counseling? Ideally, if you could get the ex and the kids to go with you it would be the best of all worlds. Even if you can't get her to go, and go by yourself, you could get some fresh, outside, perspective on the situation, and some new ways to approach it maybe. We can't control how others are going to act, we can only change and control ourselves, and influence them.
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