Replies to '12/29 Drunken Mistakes'

 If you know your husband drives drunk you probably 'should' know where he goes, which bar or bars....
You say you pray he gets caught before he kills someone else? Then you worry you (and he) will loose everything if your husband kills someone.. I have to say WHAT..
If your husband kills someone, it will be the dead person that lost EVERYTHING...
What you need to do besides praying, which probably WILL NOT work is ...Know where your husband is 'drinking'     talk to the bar owners    talk to the police...    In my state people can be arrested in their driveway, home, etc for being drunk and having been driving
Again, do not take offence, continue to pray BUT ALSO  TAKE ACTION. You are probably the only one who really knows the real story.. As you say he's a Functioning drunk which means he can function when needed. When he's drunk and driving he does not care about 'functioning"
Please take action, you might save him along with some inocent person....And your life with him might be 'nice'    Good Luck to you.

My husband died 4 years ago.  He was an alcoholic and I was married to him for 21 years before he died.  He drove drunk as well.  Nothing I did or said changed things.  In his opinion I was the one with the problem.  No one, according to him had a problem w/his drinking except me. 

He had the same problems your husband does.  He had blackouts, couldn't  remember things, lost stuff and when he wasn't sitting off by himself, generally unpleasant to be around.  But, while he was in the military he was a functional drunk.  He got up in the morning and went to work.  He stopped being a functional drunk about 3 1/2 years before he died.

I will have to tell you that so many times I wish I had left when the kids were little, so they wouldn't have had  to watch their father kill himself.  He had Hepatitis C.  He knew that drinking would make it much worse much faster.  I think he wanted to die and we didn't enter into it.  It's all water under the bridge now for me.  I don't know you, I can only tell you what staying in my marriage  did to me.  At the end of the marriage I felt destroyed.  Totally dead.  By the Grace of God my husband didn't kill someone, or one of us. 

 

You have more the lose than your material possessions.  What is this doing to you, emotionally, physically, spiritually?  Do you have kids?  What is it doing to them.  Things to think about.

 

 

 

 

I have a brother who has 6 DUI's and he is still on the road.  I have done what I can to keep him off of the roads.  I know you love your husband but you need to turn him in when he drinks and drives.  If he takes someones life, there is not enough money in the world to make up for that.   He needs help and if he doesn't get it, he will take a life.  I know you don't want to feel responsible for that happening.  Please do something.  Anything.  He will never do it for himself.

 

Rebecca***

I HAD SOME ONE I WAS DATING ONCE THAT WOULD DRINK AND DRIVE AND I DIDNT WANT TO BUT WHEN HE TOOK OFF ONCE AFTER DRINKING I REPORTED HIM FOR DUI TO THE POLICE

WAS IT EASY??

NO!!

AM I GLAD I DID IT

YES

 Have you tired that to help your self. I know how you feel . Go look in to  Al-anon It will help you  More than Robins book .I'm not saying  anything bad about Mrs MC graws book . There will be people there  at  Al- anon just like you that felt same way .It is self help group that helps family or friends of alcoholics. Because take a look at that girls thinking we didn't cause that or sure could control that behavior . Not even with all the nagging, bitching ,crying ,and reminding them what they were like would change them. Take care !!! God bless

Hello!

 

He hasn't gotten a "DUI in 13 years" and you're surprised? Are you also waiting for him to get one by killing some innocent person?

 

He hasn't gotten one because YOU have been an enabler and have not turned your husband in to law enforcement so he's FORCED to get the help he obviously needs.

 

If he hurts or kills someone, you will share the responsiblity for those crimes. You owe it to society, to him and to GOD to do what is morally and legally right. You need to either take the keys away from him and/or call the police on him. Shame on you!

 

You are NOT a VICTIM in this. YOU are a co-conspirator. I am sorry if this all sounds harsh to you, but you are talking about crimes here....crimes that may involve the harming of innocent people.

 

Pray, pray, pray, but PLEASE put some more verbs in your sentences. God would not appreciate you waiting for another victim to be created by your lack of action and lack of compassion for strangers! Do what is MORALLY correct and stop your husband before he kills someone else, someone you love or himself. Do it now, please.