Replies to '06/08 Teen Plastic Surgery'

Even after all that I've said it seems like you still think the same as you did before I wrote what I did.  I'm not trying to attack you, but as I've said before, I don't believe you know what it is like to have a physical defect that causes people to treat you differently.  I've lived life before and after plastic surgery, and for me as an individual, life has been much easier and more pleasant after.  It could have been because I had more confidence in myself and that changed the way I acted around people, therefore changing the way they treated me, or it could have been because other people simply treat more attractive people better.  Whatever the reason, in my case life after my nose job is much better.  I do not regret it, and cannot besides financial reasons imagine why I would wish I had not done it.  Please take the time to research other people's views who have gone through plastic surgery before judging me and my first hand opinion by my age.  Had I not written I was sixteen in there you probably would have assumed I was an adult and treated me like one; adults are just big kids.  They don't magically reach an age where they stop name calling, which by the way I was not doing (and if I were would not be embarassed of it).  I was simply describing the way I perceived people who, like you, fail to understand how emotionally painful it is to have something on the middle of your face that distracts people from seeing you.  I suppose I will forever disagree with your line "Bottom line is if you don't like yourself before surgery, you won't like yourself after" because I have lived through both and know that I didn't like myself before and I like myself after.

I do not think it is wrong but is this child wanting plastic surgery or is it the mothers wishes.  I work with troubled children.  I see some of their struggles but their beauty comes from within.  We have had children in that are not beautiful on the inside but their innocence and personalities make them pull on your heartstrings.  You begin to fight for them because of who they are not what they look like.  Surgery is an adult decision.  I do not think children are finished growing enough to take on surgery at such a young age.  I have a child with a hand that got caught in the sac inside my womb and did not grow properly.  This child of mine doesn't know it is ugly, because he is beautiful.  We had surgery to make the hand more functioning but not to look better.  He plays all sports and is good.  He is not handicapped or different because we do not treat him different.  He is our son and a child of God and is meant to be for a reason.  I would not change him for the world.  Think about how you are talking to this sixteen year old girl who had nose surgery.  She is fragile and amongst a lot of peer pressures and life pressures.  If this helps her so be it.  No it will not make her a different person but if it helps her feel better so be it.