Quote From: shrikeMy boyfriend was molested when he was very, very young by a half-brother. He didn't understand what was going on or what he was forced into doing at that age, of course, but it still eats away at him. I'm the only one he's told about this, and it's painful that there is so little I can do for him, other than be someone he can trust and show him love. I love him to death, and I've loved him for a very long time. I need help. I feel lost and helpless.
Is there anything I could possibly do to help him come to terms with this?
Hello, and welcome to our board!
Your boyfriend should first get into counseling and you to, if you plan on being part of his life. You can do some joint, but he will need one on one with a counselor that deals with this. There are lots of books out there too, The Courage To Heal is an excellent book and you should buy it! It will take some with it, because it is very heavy stuff! It even has a chapter for partners of CSA (Child Sex Abuse) victims.
Be there for him and let him heal his way, don't rush it. We can't just get over it! I hate it when people tell us that! Even Dr. Phil says that you (CSA victims) can not heal yourself! I wish you the best of luck!
mjkkas
