Quote From: ktsleepI have a niece that has a learning disability. My sister is at her wits end and having trouble communicating with her. I spoke to both of them and said I would help. My neice is 22 but her
reasoning ability is not much past 16. She is in college and has gotten herself into BDSM and the collar me program. I am trying to communicate with her but am finding it very difficult. She has
agreed to take the submissive collar with a coupl in Arkansas who are in the Master position. He is 46 and his wife is 33. They have 2 children 15 and 12. I have tried to explain the danger in driving out to see them. She has gone twice and is planning on going again in 2 weeks. They pay her gas and she does the house work and is involved in sexual actitvity with them. On the collarme.com website the couple state that they are looking for a submissive as a gift to each other. My niece is
putting herself in a very dangerous position but she sees these people as her new family. In the last nine months they have started taking her calls at all hours to win her trust and to allude being there for her. In my heart I feel something is going to go very wrong. I do not know how to work through this one. Any help would be greatly appreciated!! It has become Urgent!!
I can understand your concern for your neice. She has chosen to become in a lifestyle that most people consider dangerous. Considering the fact that she has some mentally disabilities it makes it even harder. At her age though you can't stop her, but you can sit her down and talk to her and make some preparations to make things safer for her, which appears to be your ultimate concern. There is things called safe calls. Does she have a cell phone? If not make sure that she gets one. The two of you sit down together and figure out a safe word, so that you can call and she can use that word if she is okay. Tell her you need their address and phone number, not because you are checking up on her, but because of safety concerns. Then when you call her, if she doesn't use the the safe word you to come up with call the police.
I can tell that a lot of times, people who become involved in bdsm relationships ecspecially on the submissive side, feel that they were born that way. They have had that intense need to serve for as long as they can remember. But if she is only 9 months into this relationship, she isn't ready for a collar. The collar is much like a wedding ring in traditional terms. It is taken as a very serious commitment between the two parties.
I will keep you both in my thoughts.
