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September 7, 2005, 10:31 pm PDT
 Quote From: hunneybear It is so amazing to se how many people have experienced the same problems. I really thought I was alone. The fact that so many people have spoken up in just a few hours says that as hard as it had to be for those who appeared..it had to be all worth while. right?? I know after dealing with an incestuous relationship with my father, I didn't want anyone to know about it. I can't say I feel better, but it is so reassuring to know that your not the only one.
I have recently begun my therapy, and it is amazing how much better you can feel when you get the help you need, and have the support from family and friends. Knowing your not alone is the key.
Anyways, I am so glad that Dr. Phil has brought some light to this issue, and the realization that it really is happening, and that you can't close your eyes to it. the people living the nightmare do need a voice and it's about time that we had one. So thank you Dr.Phil, for bringing this out in the open and giving those who can help the chance. God Bless I agree - I too have long awaited a show that speaks to what I experienced as a young girl for a few years.
Having shared my experience with only my mother and my husband i have not felt any real support until I started reading the posts on here. It is a terrible thing to experience - though somehow it makes me feel better knowing that so many out there are also living with this in silence.
I was abused by an older brother for 3 years and until the age of 24 felt like my memories were some sort of bad dream. One day I spoke to my sister about it and discovered they were real memories. I've been struggling with it ever since - hearing things like "that's just experimentation" or "that was because my brother had the same thing done to him". Needless to say that doesn't help me much and after watching the show and reading the posts...I realize I have much work to do to resolve this for myself.
I always felt like it would just 'go away' someday I suppose - it hasn't and the posts and experiences shared on this site have helped me realize just how much this has affected my life. In my case I have a great relationship with brother now and don't wish to lose that - or my family by confronting him about this. I forgave him a long time ago - just can't get past some of the issues I'm left with....fear and guilt primarily...guilt because the day I finally said 'no' he took my younger sister in to his room. I have guilt for that - and also question why I didn't stop it sooner. My brain tells me I was a little kid - but somehow it still keeps nagging at me.
I didn't mean to write so long - just has been a long time I've waited to encounter a group of people who have such experience and empathy for my situation. Funily enough I was reading the posts on here when a nephew of mine showed up - I talked with him about what I was doing and he shared that he too had been abused as a child. Was a great opportunity for us both to begin sharing such a dark secret that isn't often acceptable to talk about.
Northern Fan
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