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July 26, 2005, 11:28 am PDT
No waiting here
Quote From: sandman4uWhy is it that women always lay in bed and wait for men to approach them? Have they ever heard of initiating sex with their husbands? Ya know, men like to feel desired and wanted also! And asAllinall stated,after a while, we get tired of doingall the initiating (whether we're shot down or not). That's ANOTHER reason why we look at porn!Because alot of the time it's the WOMEN that are approaching the men in theseporn movies - and as any man knows, that is a really BIG TURN-ON. Perhaps if these wives would chase their husband's around the house more often,they wouldn't have the desire to look at it as much. Just my opinion.
p.s. **Has anyone seen Jessica Simpson's new video??? "These BootsAre Made For Walking"....HOT DAMN!! Almost better than any porn out there lol! Damn you Jessie.... I don't lie in bed waiting and never have. Okay, maybe once or twice I did because I had this new nightie and had created this whole fantasy in my head of him coming into the bedroom to find me lying seductively on the bed waiting to be ravaged. See, we have fantasies too that often involve the man "taking us by force" so to speak. Anyway, my husband is not like most men if you contend that most men are like you and I've frankly found its dangerous to get too caught up in the most men most women thing. My husband is turned off by any obvious overtures toward sex on my part. He prefers to be the man and at least have the illusion of initiating. Of course, I help it along by "sending those signals," but I rarely behave in a sexually aggressive manner toward him because I've shot down way too many times for that behavior. Do I like this? Am I happy with the current sexual dynamic of our relationship? No. I miss having the freedom to initiate. I miss feeling that I have the power, through seduction, to turn his attention to me and me alone. It isn't porn that consumes my husband and pulls his focus from me; it's work. He works a full day and then comes right home and gets on the computer and works some more, generally into the wee hours of the morning until he's too exhausted for sex anyway. And besides, he wouldn't be able to make room for sexual thoughts in his mind for all the thoughts about servers and switches and routers and networks and blah blah blah. And please don't respond back with the suggestion of some scenario I need to go through or some little trick I need to try, something that would definitely work for you and "most men," because I know my husband better than anyone, and he is not most men. Sex is very low on the priority list for him and it's something I've had to accept because I love him. Now, if you have any advice for how I can lower my sex drive, that would be great.
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