Replies to '12/21 One Paycheck Away'

I feel that the courts ARE VERY UNFAIR TO THE DADS. I never felt this way until I watched my husband go through it. I believe that the dads who choose not to be apart of their childs life should be penalized by paying through the nose, but what about those dad's who DO want to be part of their children's life, the one's who have 50/50 custody. Why should they have to pay for their ex-wife and their own household too? If the dad is providing a roof over their child's head, food, medical bills, school supplies, etc...in his 50% of the time with the children, then why should he have to pay for his ex-wifes 50% of the time too. I also was divorced with 2 children. I would NEVER have asked their father to pay for MY time with them. I believe when a woman does that she is asking for money for services rendered all those years!! She should have some dignity and not be paid for laying down with her husband and producing those children. A father has a right to know where that money is being spent, he has a right to know that the money he is FORCED to pay is being used for the welfare of those children. Does a father not have a right to protect his children? A father is shot down for wanting to assure that when they are not at his home that the money he is providing to the ex is being used to support his children when not in his presence. Shame on Dr. Phil for saying it is NONE of the father's business where the money is being spent!! How can you in one breath accuse someone of not caring about the welfare of his children, then get onto to him for wanting to assure that the money IS spent FOR his children? I agree that the man on yesterday's show was a deadbeat dad for doing nothing at all, Dr. Phil is right the dad CAN DO SOMETHING, no matter how small. My concern is for the dads who want to be involved. Why can these dads not be used as an example to the dead beat dads, instead of all of them being lumped together and penalized like the ones that are sorry dad's.