Replies to 'Teens and Sex'

Your parents must really trust you and believe that God is watching you.  I am sure they care about you and care about what you are doing.  My parents never talked to me about sex either.  Guess what ?  I had a baby at 15!  I think if my parents would of talked to me about sex I could of went on a birth control and been safe while having sex.  I think my parents were too embarassed to talk to me about it.  I think my dad just thought I wouldn't do it because if I did he would freak out or something!  My son is now 15 - I have never really sat down and talked to him about it, but we bring it up once in awhile in the car or when he has his best friend over, or when ever......I have never gone into great detail at one time.  Little bits here and their.  I have talked to him about disease and also told him I would spend my last nickel on a box of condoms.  I think he knows pretty well that he needs to be safe if he is going to have sex.  Same with drugs he knows the bad stuff is bad! (and addictive) 

I think your parents believe you have respect and morals and they have a lot of trust in you.  Why don't you bring it up yourself, tell them your thoughts, tell them you plan on saving your self for marriage.  By you bringing it up it may help them, as they may be too embarassed to bring it up to you!   

I am 31 yrs old and I too am scared to walk at night.  Not sure it will ever go away.  I am also scared when I am home a lone and it is dark outside. 

I just want to applaud you for your decision to save yourself for marriage.  If teens would only think forward as you have, so much pain, anguish, social problems, and heartache could be avoided.  I don't know how people's morals got so loose, but teenage girls and boys need to abstain from this risky, emotionally-charged, and downright immoral behavior.   

I, too saved myself for marriage for moral/religious reasons, and I couldn't have made a better decision.  I applaud you for deciding to wait and hope others will follow suit.  I have two wonderful kids now, a great husband, and ZERO regrets.  What's more valuable than that? 

Don't feel like your parents don't care.  They are probably just blind to the world today and just don't think that you are exposed.  If the topic hasn't come up they don't want to bring it up.  They may feel that they will be putting ideas into your head as well.  It is awkward and difficult to talk to kids about these subjects.  I have a 13 year old step-daughter who squirms at every subject about sex and drugs.  Another possibility is that they are confident in the morals that they have taught you and in you that they expect you will make the right decisions.  I make it a point for one to always know where my kids are.  Who, what, when, where, etc. Your mom may also trust your friends you have chosen as well.  Maybe she has overheard your vow to save yourself and feels that she doesn't need to go there now.  If they haven't brought it up with you and you need that from them.. you can still bring it up to them.  See what wisdom they can give you.  It may make them feel good to know you came to them for advice.  They can answer your questions a lot better than your friends or your computer.   

As far as being raped and molested.  Keep yourself out of any potential situation. Don't be alone with anyone.  Stay in well lit areas with a lot of people around you.  Don't be foolded by a guy into going some place a little more private to "talk".  Go with your gut.  If something doesn't feel right it's not.  I hope this helps.  Good luck! 

I'm 18 and my parents never really talked about sex with me either.  I found out about sex from my friends when I was 9.  My mom explained puberty and what a virgin is to me, and that's about it.  Furthermore, if I'm watching tv and they walk in and even hear the word sex, they tell me that the show is innappropriate, although not so much now that I'm 18.  i also have a friend who 1st found out about sex from her friends when she was 13.  Her parents didn't talk to her about sex, and she thought you could get pregnant from kissing(her parents didn't even let her participate in sex ed. at that age).    Like you, I'm a devout Christian and waiting until marriage.  It's good to have someone who shares your beliefs to talk to and give you support.  I became very close to one of my teachers who is also a devout Christian and waited until marriage and i go to her.  If there's someone you know and trust and has similar beliefs about sex, you might want to talk to that person.  I am also afraid of being raped and molested, especially since I'm kinda on the small side and not extremely strong.  I hear all the horror stories and worry.  I try to avoid dark places at night, take my drink everywhere i go, etc..  Heels tend to make me feel a little better, though, since they can be used as weapons.  It's really scary, though, because you can't really prevent it and most women are raped by men they know and trust.  Anyways, good luck1