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October 13, 2006, 4:18 pm PDT
 Quote From: missy77 I do play alot with my kids, actually I think I play to much with them that they don't know how to play alone! I'm a very active personne.
I' m normaly fine, it's just that when my "time of month comes close, I'm a real mess. I can't think staight, eat like a bottomless pit, have no patience whatsoever, can't sleep, loose all sense!!! As soon as it starts I'm fine. I think I will have to go see the doctor for that cause it's real hard to deal with.
I never belived in pms. When I was younger, my step mom would say, "you're starting soon heh, it shows" and I never belived her, but she was alway's right. It's just a couple of years ago that I started beliving in pms, I alway's wanted to leave my huband, yellled at my kids, nothing made sense, we alaway's fought, I found myself fat and ugly, never wanted to go outside, ect.... Until I started to read on it, and I started to understand myself in pms mode, now I just warn everybody in advance, and we don't fight anymore, and my kids are understanding and calm down!
In my non pms mode I'm this patiente, understanding, slim and beutifull persone! I'm trying to work on being better in pms mode and it's woking a bit, my husband and I don't fight, (that's mainly because he now understands I'm not doing it on purpose) I don't want to leave him, and I try my darndest not to be impatient! I really have to work on the eating!!!!!
I did go through a suacidal depression for a while, where I had no help from anyone, (when I actually called my dads wife crying for help, she actally had the nerve to tell my dad that I was bitchy that day, after she practacly hung up on me!!!)i actually walked to an overpass and climbed up, climed back down, went home crying, turned on the t.v. and there was dr.Phill talking about depression! And now, well, lets just say that if it weren't for that I would not be here! I went to see a psyco.... and that helped me more, and finally convinced my husband that we needed to go together, and that helped more!
Now I'm fine, well I think so! lol :0) It's just that in pms mode I need alot of help! and now, I'm not afraid of asking for it! And when I started writting with you, I was in pms mode and your words really helped me out!!
thanks you are a great insparation!!
P.s the bad habit is more of a dependence of something, that I have not done in 2 days now!!!!!(I'm actually a very strong persone, I used to smoke 1 pack a day and when I decided to quit, I did it in one day, cold turkey, that was seven years ago!) When I was a teen, I suffered from severe cramps & migraines. In fact, when it started, I would go downstairs to the nurse's office ad she'll have my aspirin and note ready for me ... yep, like clockwork. At 16, they put me on birth control and I was so ashamed! Back in the late 60's -- good girls never took birth control -- just the bad girls. It was a secret I had to live with -- it stopped the cramps & migraines -- however, my mood swings were awful!!
I would get really blue a week before I started ... I usually started on MOnday and on Thursday when I woke up, I was high ... so much energy ...
I also suffered from depression for a very long time .... I don't anymore. In fact, I've been diagnosed with Manic Depression what they call Bipolar nowadays. I know it wasn't directly related to my PMSing because there were times I was really manic or really depressed (to the point where I too wanted to murder myself).
It was a doctor that helped me ... I didn't feel like I was getting the right help so I went to enroll in a blind study for a new medicine. It was with a well-known hospital and some pretty good pyscholigist / pyschotrists. When I went for their test, I became really high from knowing I was finally going to get better. Instead, I flunked their interview test ... and this doctor sat me down and said:
YOU ARE REALLY MANIC - WE ARE LOOKING FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE CONTROLLED .... HOWEVER, just know that you will know when to commit yourself.
I know that sounds so negative! however, it was the most empowering thing anyone had said to me. I WOULD KNOW ... so if I could know ... then how do I get myself there. Eventually, I was able to conquer my moods ... it took a lot of time .. and it took a lot of experimenting ..
using the exercises in a couple of Manic-Depression workbooks, or reading books on depression ... Journaling was the best thing I did for me.
For me, it was iron bridges .. I never would go near one when I was depressed or manic ... I was fine over bridges made of concrete.
Knowing that this is apart of who you are ... you can do something too. Finding a good doctor really works. If you do like Dr. phil's processes & methods, he has been certifying professionals to his books -- Check out LEARNDRPHILFROMLAWLIS.com (I think that's the site -- I believe they have a link to where you can find a professional in your area. The last time I checked, NE Ohio didn't have anyone.
Wow, 2 days ... that's really good. Don't feel like you should do it alone .... see if there's some kind of support group in your area for your bad habit ... check out the yellow pages ... sometimes you do need physcial support from others with the same habit.
I too went cold turkey ... back on 10/18/78 - about 2-3 p.m. on a Friday ... woke up with 2-3 cigerettes - friend came over, I smoked her's -- then when I ran out, I quit! I was actually starring to smoke my 4th pack a day ... and it came down to eating or smoking ... and I thought a $45 a month habit was a lot of money! duh ... what a joke! and thank GOD I quit when I did ... I wouldn't be here today if I hadn't. |
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