Replies to '12/28 What Would Robin Do?'
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October 16, 2006, 5:27 pm PDT
 Quote From: jettav When are people in this society gonna realize that marriage is about a committment between 2 people who are loving, caring and trrusting of one another. Marriage takes communicationa nd getting along and on the same page to have a good, solid marriage. I thank God often that I am marriaed to a loving and caring guy who knows and believes that I, his wife has a big part in our marriage and it is not all about him (and vice versa), we are int his marriage together and when we need something form one anotehr, we approach it and we get it, The money in the bank belongs to both of us and I don't even bring in an income, bu you b et if I need something I am gonna get and i don't have to ask, I am not a child, nor am I beneath my husband, I am his mate, partnera nd we are int his together, and he is a wonderful father and knows that it is his place to help take care of the kiddos, we both said I do, not just one of us. Husbands, love and respect and honor your wives and treat her as a human being with dignity, you would be surprised on the pay back, and that goes the same for women, treat and honor one another and get off the high horse and stop acting like a father to your spouse and a selfish punk, your marru=iage will defiently fall. Of course, with out accountability and trust, it won't work either, be responsible in the marriage and use your brain and not do something stupid like over spending and taking one anotehr for granted, communicate and come up with an agreement that wll work for both of you and wives, you DON"T have to allow your husband to treat you like a doormat, you are adults and yes, you are aloud to have a checking/savings account, your paycheck has YOUR name on it, not his, therefore take yorself to the bank and start the account and I encourage this for those of you with a spouse who doesn't honor and respect you as his wife. The guy is manipulating and causing strife within your marriage if he is treating you as a no body and you don't have to take it. Now, no one has to come on here and tell me any different because I know for a fact that my way works because I am in a happy and loving marriage going on 14 years and my husband treats me with love and dignity, and honors me and appreciates every good thing about me and vice versa, why? because we are spouses, not children, we are in this marriage together and we are here for life, giving our children the best examples of what a real and true relationship is about. other then a brother, I have the longest running marriage in my family, every one else is divorced and unhappy, why? because of their selfish pride and the idea that they were either doormats or the husband thought he ruled every aspect of the woman, sorry guys, but a woman has her own mind and there is no reason for you to take it over and disrespect her. get over yourselves and treat with your wife like a spouse instead of a doormat, believe me, it is well worth the time and effort. I have always taken care of the bills...I made a few bad mistakes with bills...but my husband still makes me do the bill paying...he gets angry that I spend too much...but never helps me with them...I don't want to complain too much...but it is hard for me now when he is semi-retired...and his pension from work was changed to 300.00 less a month as he never told me that amount would end as it was a severance pay from his former 25 year employment shutdown...Robin what should I do??? I never worked full time...do not have career. I volunteer...but get bored easily...when I worked part-time we would owe money to IRS...so my husband would take out more from his pay...so I could work...dumb stuff....we never got ahead with my working...I had to buy a car once to work...then business closed down. I lost the job we had a bill...in exchange... I know you are going to say I should go to school for career...but I do not do well in school... I cannot remember what I read....I have always had that problem. Maybe I am lazy...but house work keeps me very busy....I love to read despite my problem with it. I know this has nothing to do with your show but I just needed to show the other side...when a man doesn't care how I pay just that I do...I am trying to control my spending...but I do want to look nice...I do not wear makeup...so do not spend money on that...I don't drink...or smoke...just buy stuff for grandkids...and myself...and we have 9 grandkids...so bills can be high for them alone... Now lower pay...and higher bills...for insurances (home & car)...electric...I don't even go get a Starbucks Frappacino anymore....I don't go to mall...like I used to...oh well...thank you for letting me vent...I put this in the wrong place I know...God Bless... |
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