Quote From: lovingoneFirst let me say that I am not implying ANYTHING about your particular relationship and what works for you is your business.
But as far as nomarital long term relationships succeeding is concerned....
Sure it's EASY to happy with your relationship to your significant other when you basically wake up every morning DECIDING whether or not you want to be together!
And if you don't you can just pack you bags and leave in the middle of the night and the other person has no legal right to do anything about it!
A lot of us have "friends" that show up for the "party" and then we can't find them when we really need support.
But how intimate are we with those people?
Maybe we should stop dreaming of that wonderful make believe world. Marriage is hard work. Not for lazy people. You have to please and be pleased also. It's not a 50/50 it's 200/200. You cannot expect rewards at work for not doing it. That is what marriage is...not just hearts and flowers...that is the beggining years. I am married for 35 years. It has been happy and sad sometimes both at the same time. My husband is a better worker bee than I am. Love is all we need. There is not a word in our language that says what we have. We are comfortable and
at ease with each other. We are proud of our marriage and it's piece of paper. I believe some people should just not marry. Then also some people take advantage of another person. The other person does not really matter. Their parents do not matter. I wanted my Dad and Mom to be proud of us...as well as My in-laws. We would never hurt them. Love is more than being about me me me...not a soul speaks about that anymore. The real marriage is giving to your other half...and they give back to you. if you cannot do this don't marry...but don't move in together either. When there isn't any hope there isn't real love. If someone hurts you when you ask for that piece of paper, they won't do that for you, do not stay.
They really will never give you true love. I have been in love and out throuhtout our marriage...but we try to see the true picture. That is where God comes into the marriage. His ways are the way to go. When you first marry it is hard to sacrifice...for each other... But that is true love. Not one person winning. He did for his people. That is love. Merry Christmas...
