Quote From: jojobeanerI understand why the attorney would say that she is too pretty to go to jail because in jail child molesters are on the lowest of the low of the pecking order. Being too pretty is not really the issue, although he made it sound that way. Because of course he doesn't want to admit out loud that she is a child molester.
Now about Debra having sex with a kid, yes that is wrong and yes she is a child molester. The real damage that has been done has to do with the fact that God has ordained sexual relations to be between a man and a woman that are married. We are not to have pre-marital sex. Why? Is God a kill-joy? absolutely not! He created us and He created sex to bond us together, sex is an intimate act or so it should be and that is why God created it to be shared with someone that we already have a committment to, ie marriage. And since you can't marry a child lawfully in California Debra already knew she should not have sex with the boy.
Debra LaFave took advantage of this child, took something from him that God ordained to be a gift that he would someday give to his wife. She has taken his innocence and treated him like a sex object. She was not married to him and she couldn't be married to him because he is a child. She is no different than any person who has sex with someone outside of marriage, God calls these people adulterers, fornicators and the sexually immoral. God knows that having sex is a powerful feeling and He knows that if you have sex outside of marriage it can create feelings that you are in love with the person because that is what God designed sex to do. When Debra had sex with this child it bonded her to him, she no longer saw him as a child, but as someone she was in love with. All logical reasoning went out the door. If she had the mindset that I cannot have sexual relations until I am married, then her logical reasoning would have kicked in like: he's only a child, how will this affect his future relationships with women or his wife to be someday, I have a responsibility to lead him into responsible manhood, to show him what real love is, to honor him as a person, to respect him, to show him how to have respectful boundaries with a person of the opposite sex. But she didn't do any of that. She knew what she was doingwas wrong, but she didn't listen to her conscience and now she is trying to backpeddle and come up with all kinds of ridiculous reasons why she did what she did. And the worst part is that she has a lawyer defending her and giving her more bogus reasons to justify her actions, shame on both of them!
Debra LaFave broke the law and she should be punished for it. More importanly she has scarred this young man for life, this experience will taint all of his future relationships with women and how he treats women. She should do jail time just like any convicted child molester and she should be registered as a sex offender. Should we feel sorry for her, yes, she is very very very lost. Does God still love her, ABSOLUTELY YES! Does He love her sin, ABSOLUTELY NOT!. I pray that Debra LaFave gets the help she needs to understand the seriousness of this sin. Is there hope for this situation, yes. God can take any messed up life and turn it around, He can take the worst of the worst and give them real life.
We have laws in this country and God tells us to respect the authority of the land if it does not contradict His word. Debra LaFave should not be on house arrest she should be in prison! where all the other child molesters are, she should not get special treatment. The fact that she is on house arrest is God protecting her, nothing more and nothing less. Debra LaFave I pray that you will listen to that still small voice in your head (God calls it your conscience) He is speaking to you. Listen to Him.
Lord I am heartbroken about this situation, Lord I want to lift up the young man who is affected by all of this and ask that you heal his heart and mind about being used, he may not see it that way at this point because he himself may not even know you. But Lord I ask that you use this situation to soften his heart and prepare his heart to come to you and accept you as his Savior. Lord I ask that you speak to Debra and use this to soften her heart and show her that she needs you and you want to heal her and restore her life to what it should be I ask these things in Jesus name Amen
Just as your info was meant to provide nothing but good, I have faith that you will give me the same respect. God also says that he will deal with the unbeliever, if this person doesn't have a relationship with God you are wasting your breath and actually stepping on God's toes at the same time by trying to do his job. (1 corin. 5, 11-13) and this also affects your prayer also. God will only answer the prayer of a believer and the prayer must glorify him, so a personal relationship with God has to be established first and this takes the participation of the person themselves. Be very careful on this point, on one hand your life will get easier because the whole world wont rely on your prayer, just you and the people that ask you to pray for them ( look up healing prayer in John), I have faith that your intentions are pure but so was Job's. The last thing that Job did before God took everything from him was pray for his sons because they might have sinned, when we do this we become judgemental especially to the unbeliever. (Job 1, 1-6) With Love in my heart I say these things, to keep the focus on Jesus and his message (LOVE), If you are a true unbeliever and are still reading this, get to know Jesus, he wants to know you but you have to make the first move.