Quote From: louisianamomMy husband is scheduled for a laparoscopic gastric bypass on November 2, 2006. He is excited but nervous. He has been wanting this for about 5 years, but his insurance did not cover it until recently. I am a little nervous also. This will change our whole lifestyle. Our form of entertainment is going out to eat.........by ourselves or with friends. We have been married for 12 years (together for 15) and I have never known him thin. I just wonder how this is going to change our relationship. Any advice would be welcomed.
Expect, a whole to happen. Do not let his weight loss become a marriage loss too. I have not known one person to remain in their relationship the same way after the surgery. You need to get real about the mental damage it will do to some one. One can be how he will not be reconized by some people. He will not have the extra meat to play with or takle for fun. He will feel sensitive to physical pain; even the playfull ones. His mind will not make him feel completly satisfied with himself. He can feel that he is still big too. You may begin to become jealious too; not even know it at the time too. My had recently got divorced. I can not say that it was the surgery, but I am pretty sure that was a large part of that reason. She does not look or remind me of who I once known. She may appear to be happy, but mom said she is hiding it all. It not what is on the ouside that counts, it is what is on the inside that keeps you going. My friend had the surgery too, well she said some things to me about her mental state being reflecked due to her weightloss. It is mentally challenged to go through a change like this one.
Margaret Perez
