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October 17, 2006, 11:10 pm PDT

Boundaries

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When you marry, you get the whole family.  Keri should have worked this out years ago instead of letting 9 years go by. If you don't get along with your mother-in-law stay away from her or move if you have too. Brian should step up and talk to his mother instead of being in the middle.  He needs to be the mediator and try to work something out between his wife and his mother. Too many marriages have been broken because of in-laws.  I personally have a great mother-in-law and would not trade her for anything. She never butts in to our marriage and has always supported us when we needed her.
The real issue here is boundaries.  Some people don't have any and when their children grow up and move out of the house they haven't detached from their children.  A man is supposed to leave and cleave to his wife.  She becomes his first priority above all else, they are to become one.  So I agree with you on the point about Brian stepping up and talking to his mother.  The husband should speak to his mother respectfully and take care of the situation before it gets out of hand.  There wouldn't be mother-in-law problems if the husbands would step up and take care of things.
 
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October 18, 2006, 11:20 am PDT

exactly

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When you marry, you get the whole family.  Keri should have worked this out years ago instead of letting 9 years go by. If you don't get along with your mother-in-law stay away from her or move if you have too. Brian should step up and talk to his mother instead of being in the middle.  He needs to be the mediator and try to work something out between his wife and his mother. Too many marriages have been broken because of in-laws.  I personally have a great mother-in-law and would not trade her for anything. She never butts in to our marriage and has always supported us when we needed her.
I find it interesting that Brian only half way sticks up for his wife. If Patti was my mother in law, my husband would have told her to treat me with respect or get out of our lives. It is clear that Patti has an unhealthy attachment to her son and that Keri is married to a marshmallow. Patti seems to also have an exaggerated sense of entitlement. Personally, I think kids are better off not seeing their grandmother rather than seeing her treat their mother badly.
 
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October 18, 2006, 4:14 pm PDT

10/18 In-Law Threats

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When you marry, you get the whole family.  Keri should have worked this out years ago instead of letting 9 years go by. If you don't get along with your mother-in-law stay away from her or move if you have too. Brian should step up and talk to his mother instead of being in the middle.  He needs to be the mediator and try to work something out between his wife and his mother. Too many marriages have been broken because of in-laws.  I personally have a great mother-in-law and would not trade her for anything. She never butts in to our marriage and has always supported us when we needed her.
 These three people today are perfect examples of humanity without natural affection for one another.  Nine years wasted and nary a one made a move in love and efforts to understand. 
 


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