Quote From: rautcrI can't wait to see
this show! I have a daughter in law from hell! I contacted the show and told my story and decided because of the grandkids, I had better pull back. I have bent over backwards to try to welcome her into this family. I have showered her with love and she continues to be a smart ass. She is jealous of the relationship I have with my grandkids. My son and I were once very close and she trys to destroy that relationship too. I bite my tongue constantly with her. Her own family ignores her and she has no friends. Think she'd figure it out. She has cost me to miss one of my grandchilds birthday for the last 3 years. She ruins every holiday. Just when I think she is starting to change, she pulls something. I promise, I am a good mother in law and have tried and tried with this girl, but I am not going to take the disrespect any longer. I feel bad because I know my son is in the middle and is torn. Any suggestions?
I can't help but wonder what is missing from this picture? You talk about showering your DIL with love and in the same sentence call her a "smart ass". There is so much more here that I wonder about your other children (If there are any)? Maybe you should step back and see if you are treating all of your children and grandchildren equal. From what I've seen in my husband's family...they are pitted against each other for their parent's attention and all it does is filter though the kids to the DILs and SILs and then to the grandkids. Some don't mind playing the game of "favorite child of the week" and some have become totally disconnected and refuse to be a part of it. I don't know your situation...but I know ours. Maybe your DIL is disconnected from you for good reasons (of her own). If you truly love your son...you would welcome your DIL without judging her and accept her (scrupples and all) and always go out of your way to include her in everything (even if you aren't getting your way that day by including her). Your son will love you that much more (if you do). If her family is as disfunctional as you say...she needs a GOOD family...not a mother-in-law that bad mouths her behind her back.
If you have been excluded from their family birthday celebrations...what will it take before you get the message that maybe you are doing something wrong?
Rainy
