Quote From: mokey49I JUST HAD MY YOUNGEST DAUGHTER CALL ME AFTER 4 YEARS. 4 LON G AGONIZING YEARS. WE NEVER FOUHT, SHE JUST TOLD ME ONE DAY ;MOM YOU CAN,T COME TO MY HOME BECAUSE MY BOYFRIEND DOES NOT LIKE YOU;.SO MUCH FOR MY GRANDSON. I WAS SO LOST I FELT LIKE THEY DIED. IT WAS A DEATH OF A KIND. NOW IHAVE SEEN HER ONCE IN THE MONTH SINCE SHE CALLED +THEY NOW HAVE A 4 MONTH OLD GIRL.I AM HAPPY TO HAVE THEM BACK IN MY LIFE, HOWEVER, I AM SCARED HOW LONG THIS WILL LAST. YHEY ARE GETTING MARRIED NEXT YEAR.MY GRANDSON IS NOW5 +I JUST LOVE HIM SO,SO, MUCH, I FEAR HE WILL BE MESSED UP WHEN HE GROWS UP. WELL I COULD USE SOME INSPERATION.
Obviously you need to be careful on how you handle this. This can certainly happen again so you need to do something to turn it around. For starters, your daughter was 100% wrong in taking your grandchildren away from you - you know that but she obviously doesn't which is really a shame. A mother should be treated with the ut most respect and love in my opinion.
She obviously is swayed easily by her boyfriend. With that said, as much as you want to - bite your tongue and never say anything bad about him. Ask her if she needs help with planning the wedding, get involved only if she wants you to. Kill the a&^hole with kindness and put the past to rest. Help out with the granskids, offer to babysit, try to form some kind of relationship with him.
Does this go against everything I believe - absolutely. But it is not fair that the children are being used as pawns in this relationship so somebody needs to be the hero and unfortunately it has to be you. I'm sorry you are even being put in this position but I can't think of anything else you can do to try to stay in the lives of you daughter and granchildren aside from family counseling but I'm sure he wouldn't go for that!
