Replies to '12/27 Runaway Dramas'
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October 16, 2006, 8:24 am PDT
 Quote From: annette43
Well most of you will not like what I am about to say.... heck you just may delete this but its okay... with me I have not seen the runaways yet ....but I am looking forward and I will feel the same way.... I do now..... these are 15 and 16 years old females not children they are looking for love all in the wrong places ... they believe in these older men thinking they will take great care of them .... but all these old raggy men want is just some sweet young butt ..... that they can control ..... and they do have the very best control over them ..... what is that its called LOVE.... to these young girls this is just want they see and think .....
now if these girl are virgins or at least one of them or both ..... whatever...... then they are not going to listen to Dr. Phil or their own parents .... what you are really doing is driving your kids away .... okay now on the men side OK yeah its all about LUST and getting their rocks off and CONTROL ......they are playing with these girls mind .... and there is nothing anyone can do .... if you lock the men up they will just follow the guys in jail or prison .... or get another older man ..... what these girls are really looking for is that parent love that they did not get from their parents ....
. and their parents know that they did not spend that quality time with them ...... I am not saying they are bad parents No!! .... when they was five and six years of age now ten years later they want to be parents .... oh no you get just what you put into life .... its way to late to be a parent now.... you are only going to lose your girls and if you do get them back it will change EVERYTHING you would have to give those girls your whole attention ..... with a little bit space in between ..... now what the parents can do is really tell their girls ....
okay hey I messed up ..... but I am trying to be here now .... this is a big mistake these guys had used you they don't want you..... just wanna to control you and have you think that they are something that they are not ...... they are not going to love you the way you want them to .... and then the parents will just have to set aside .... OH YEAH!! set aside and just wait.... I hope none of the girls are in any danger .... cause if so then the police will have to be involved .....but the parents can't think that everything is going to be just fine .... cause it will not things will become very hard .....
cause these girls really LOVE these men and they only see GOOD in them .... they see that the parents are being HARMFUL and very DISRESPECT .... and they really hate their own parents..... I know the parents are very hurt .... but they have to just let go ..... and hope the girls will see the wrong in the guys .... and then the parents can just welcome their girls with loving arms ..... not saying I told you so,,, don't say that ,,,, just welcome them with loving arms and still give them their space,,,,, and give them the attention they need.... so they will not go look for it in an older man ever in life .....
but will look for someone their own age and live happier ever after life's .... I was in the same situation just about 29 years ago.... I was 15 and he was 35..... my parents had him arrested and I hated them for a very I mean very long time ...... I know you all are saying good for your parents for arrested the S.O.B .... and I really do understand why you would say that..... but for me I was in LOVE and thats the disease that you are working with and fighting with .....
well to make the long story short about me and my parents everything is all well and dandy now ..... but they just had to let me get hurt ..... I did not come home right away..... cause I felt ashamed ...... but I finally did and in all times it took some work.... but in all time we did have the happier life so to the Parents just be very careful cause you don't want to lose your girls... Believe it or not all runaways don't run for the same reasons. In our case, our daughter was loved, respected, cared for, well educated, listened to, allowed to grow and express herself, hugged, kissed, joked with, validated and most importantly given a spiritual compass by which to live her life. She was raised knowing how to treat others and how to care for and love herself. She has 2 siblings who seem to have done well in grasping and appreciating all of the above. Sometimes there is an emotional component in teen behavior that warrants a closer,less judgemental look and approach. We all know that hormones play a critical role at this time as well. It would be helpful to do some research and not make "off the cuff" comments as if you know all of the answers without haven done any of the work or research. In our situation we found law enforcement to be useless in finding our daughter. We found her ourselves. Initially we were not able to determine what had caused this sudden strange behavior. Nothing had been done to her to make her want to leave , she was not angry with her family. She was suffering from an emotional condition that has still not been fully diagnosed. She is now home and seems to be quite remorseful for what we went through in trying to find her and understand what was going on. We knew that something was very wrong because she had never done anything like this before, nor had she given us any cause for real worry. Unfortunately she had just turned 19yrs old (3 days) and the police would not help us eventhough we told them that this behavior indicated that something was very, very wrong. It is good that things are well with you and your family now, but just know that every runaway may not run for the only conditions you listed. |
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