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October 16, 2006, 6:55 pm PDT
10/17 What Would Robin Do?
Quote From: czinger62Splitting it down the middle is fair ONLY, and ONLY if you BOTH earn the exact same money...benefits and all. What if your hubby makes 4 times more money than you? it's not fair to split it down the middle then.
When my DH and I married, I was making 1/3 of the joint income, so we sat down and totalled up the necessities of life: Rent, Transportation, Food, Clothing, Retirement, Savings. We both contributed to our joint expenses based on our compensation 2/3 from him, 1/3 from me. Every year, with every raise and changes...we'd review and adjust. Everything left over after we paid the joint expenses was ours to play with. I resented sometimes that he had MUCH MORE discretionary income than me. However, anytime I asked for something over and beyond my fun money...I got it., so there was no trouble there.
Now I'm a stay at home mom so Hubby is paying 100 percent of everything. Again, we re-ivaluated and reviewed the budget and budgeted fun money for both of us. Hubby recognizes that though I may not be bringing home the dollars, I AM contributing IN KIND with taking care of our home and our child. My hubby knows how much it costs to hire a professional maid, cook, child care provider, and petsitter...so he doesn't complain one bit.
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Stay at home mom's deserve to be treated with love and respect from their husband's. there is no such thing as mine and yours when it comes to taking care of a home and children. Myhusband feels the samw way as your, he could hure some one to do everyhting that I do but he prefers not, therefore he respects and honors me as his wife and I reccomend all spouses to do this, you could get more rewards then you could ever think, :)
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