Quote From: denzangelI don't think that you should have seperate checking accounts for a husband and a wife. Both husband and wife should have access to the money to get what they need to get. Now I do the finances for me and my husband but in no way shape or form does he have to ask my permission if he wants to buy something. Usually he will call me if it is over $50 to make sure that I don't mind which I don't. I guess the reason that we never fight about money is neither of us are selfish. Usually if we want to get something it is for OUR house, OUR cars, or OUR kid.
If he tells me oh I think I need some more work clothes then I will just go out and get them for him or if I need some then I will go get some. There is no me, me, me or I, I, I, in our household and I think that is where these people are getting frustrated over and fighting over. Once your bills are paid and you have put money aside who cares what one person spends the money on.
My husband and I have been together for 17 years, and we have never argued over money. We both work and adjust our schedules accordingly to take care of our 6 year old. We both have our own checking accounts, and we also have a joint checking account. We put money into our joint account to pay the household bills, but he rest of our money goes into our individual accounts. We do not control in any way how each other spends their money.
I hear so many here talk about marriage being "one." I couldn't disagree more. Marriage is a combination of two who walk the same journey in life. Individuality should never be given up in a marriage.
This board never ceases to amaze me regarding the BS that women put up with in their relationships. So many women seem to tolerate unhealthy relationships, rather than stand up and confront their husbands. It's sad.
