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October 23, 2006, 5:23 pm PDT
 Quote From: dragnfly88 I am so afraid to have my kids all gone. In July of this year my 19 year old moved to Georgia with her boyfriend and his family, where she transfered her college to, and is doing very well adjusting, sometimes she needs me and I do talk to her alot. It was very hard for me to let her go, and I knew I had to, and I had to be strong for her. But I miss her so much. We were so close and Being my first born has made it harder. Now I have a 17 year old that is planning on being a physical therapist andhas done her research, and is planning on going to school in South Carolina, and move in with her dad. He is a good man and I know he will take care of her, But he lacks in the love department. I know its 9 months away but Brittany and I had a long serious talk about it last night and the feeling of loosing my last daughter is killing me. Yes, I have a wonderful husband, and he has no children, so he thinks I am being silly, crying all the time, but he doesnt know the connectin you have with a child and Its so hard to let go, I have dedicated my life to my kids and now I am loosing them. I am so afraid of feeling lost, I will have that huge hole in my heart, I dont want to be without them. I dont know how to handle this, Can someone please help me understand how to move on without my kids. They are all I know!! Depressed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My youngest has left for the AirForce and I just got back from graduation. It has been the toughest eights weeks I have gone through. But you have to realize that they are growing and have to spread their wings as we did. No, it's not going to be easy, I sat and cried for days and sometimes when his favorite song comes on I sit and cry. I know he is happy where he is and he is enjoying his new life and finding where he belongs. So now it is time to take care of you and find what you want to do with your life. I have been a single mother for the past thirteen years and it is difficult like you say, this is all you know is taking care of all their needs, now it is time to find out what you need. I have gotten more involved with church and getting ready to teach a class and working on the christmas choir project and that keeps me busy plus the fact work is really busy and I work alot of long hours. DON'T GET ME WRONG IT IS NOT EASY, I am reading Robins book right now and she gives good advice on how to handle the empty nest so your child and you can work on accepting it as it get's closer to the time. Good Luck, remember God won't give you anymore than you can handle. God BLess |
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