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October 18, 2006, 4:05 pm PDT

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Quote From: emmie16

I am suffering.  Everyday of my life seems to get harder and harder. My husband of 14 years cheated on me with several women.  He is a policeman and very controlling. Hates my family, hates my friends, hates people in general. Fights with me daily about the silliest things. He calls me names that I would never say, but I am so hurt my this.  I have two beautiful kids that I am worried sick for.  They do not deserve this disfunction.  They hear him call me names make fun of my family. He pushes me to have sex with him like I am some whore. I loved our sex life at one time, but it got do obsessive and hurtful to me.  I had to do something about it. After huge arguments (about silly things) blaming me for everything, he would expect sex after all the bad things said, and of course no apology. He started seing women on the job, having sex in the back seat, motel rooms and where ever he could get it.  I was shame faced after this all went public, with the family and oh, the newspapers (Just think of where he got caught). Everyone is so devistated for me, I feel so embarrased about what he did to me and my family.

I can’t imagine how badly this must be hurting you. I hope that you have a support system- family, friends- who can give you the emotional support that you need and deserve right now.

Where is your husband now? Are you considering staying together, or are you done with this chaos? The reason he hates your family and friends is because he has the need to isolate you from them; that way he will have you all to himself to control and manipulate without any interference.

You and your children need and deserve to experience true, real happiness. Dr. Phil says this a lot: Children would rather come from a broken home than live in one. It’s the truth! You are the strongest female role model that your children have, you can’t allow for them to believe your marriage is ‘normal’ because they will grow up and seek out partners to repeat this abusive cycle. Be good to yourself and protect yourself. I wish you the best.

 


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