Replies to 'The Meaning of "Family"'

Dr.Phil,

You say you want no leaf unturned well then here you go this is the perfect show for you.My family is such a mess,my mother had a baby in the 1960s that was of a mixed race so she gave her up for adoption.She told me all my life that she was dead but turns out that shes not.So not only did she lie to me but she also gave me her name like i was to be a replacement for her. My mothers family disowned her and everyone that had anything to do with her.When i found out that my sister was still alive my mother told me that i was a liar because her baby died.So to this day she still tells me that.A few months ago my grandmother died and nobody told me,nor was anyone listed in the obituary from my family except for my aunt that lived next door to her.I found out she died on the internet.My fathers side of the family is the same way they don't talk and he doesn't want anything to do with me either.I used to call and check up my dad once in awhile just to make sure he was still alive and to let him know that i did care but his phone has been turned off for the last year so i don't even no if he is alive or not anymore.My question for you is why did i have to be born into such a screwed up family.I am so lonely and just want to feel like i belong somewhere.Everything that i thought i was and where i came from is all a lie.I don't no who i am anymore.I have 3 kids of my own and i am trying to be a good mother to them and give them a better life than i had.They ask about my mom and dad but i don't no what to tell them as to why they don't see them without hurting there feelings.It is my choice that they don't see my mother,and maybe that is wrong but i don't feel that she is my mother or maybe its just that i don't want her to be my mother because i hate her so much for what she has done to me.So do you have any advice?