I would really encourage you to attend Alanon or Coda meetings. Often they are going on all around you and you just don't know it. Call the General Service Office of the AA near you they will steer you in the right direction. In these meetigs you will meet people who know exactly how you feel but it's more than just a place to vent. It's a place to set aside your co-dependant traits and gain new tools for living. You can't wish or force your loved one sober but you can learn how to set boundaries and make healthy decisions about your life.
Peace and God Bless
Mischif
