Replies to 'Are You Afraid to Age?'

You say that you "feel" old. Unless you have serious health issues, taking control of your life means taking control of your emotions and not buying into what the media is trying to sell you. Youth and beauty is not what creates a sense of happiness or balance. When you visit a hospital where patients are on their death bed, you don't go thinking when you walk on your two feet out that hospital door to the outside world and think "poor me". You think "Thank you God!" for giving me a sound mind and body...and somehow you need to think that what is your "worst" feeling day might just be someone's bliss....what would you rather have - tonnes of wrinkles and sagging or a chronic fatal disease where the last thing on your mind is "How do I look....?" but instead "Will I live another day to see the sunshine, or have my kids hug me or eat my favorite dessert? It's ok to feel down and bad some days, we're only human, but you live in a free country where opportunity is all around you, fresh water, food, resources to make your life better. Listen to your favorite song, look through old photos, go bowling, pick up a dry old leaf off the sidewalk and stare at it like you would if you were little again. Just being happy and trying to make other people that are feeling the same way you are will lift your heart - and you won't care about a "face lift" once you get a "spirit lift!" You are a beautiful person and worthy of just experiencing every day like it's a gift....so just take time to enjoy that yummy smell of popcorn while your family watches a movie together and realize....gee I don't have to worry if someone is going to bomb outside of my house - you can relax and give back to the world something special...because I belive you are more then just a person with worries, empower yourself to not buying in....THAT is free and you have access to it 24/7....from someone who thought the same until she stopped living "what if" and started living "why not?"

If you have been depressed all of your life then no amount of vitamins or a fountain of youth is going to make you feel better.  You say that you are homeless in Dayton at the YWCA.  They have many resources available to you to get the help you need, (case management, individual and group counseling, educational support, goal planning, referals, etc.)  In order for you to begin to heal you need to start with the inside.  You still have many good years left but you have to want to make a difference in your life. 

 

I speak from experience.  I do understand the hardships of life and I have lived them most of my 43 years.  And unfortunately my children lived them with me.  But I refused to give up.  You have to do it for no one else but you.  And if your BF dumped you for the reason you say he did then he is not a nice person and does not love you unconditionally.  Therefore, he did you a favor and hopefully down the road you will see that you deserve better.  You are living with a group of women that are in the same situation as yours, and some possibly worse.  You need to embrace them and their friendship.  They are your most valuable asset right now.  There is nothing wrong with reaching out and asking for help.  Please do something wonderful for YOURSELF.......reach out, it could save your life.

 

Your sister in spirit,

Tammy