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Replies to '06/05 Big Spenders and Cheapskates'
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October 20, 2006, 2:17 pm PDT
 Quote From: stratisf I totally side with the cheapskate husband. Why does anyone need to buy name-brand peanut butter? They all are made of the same stuff! Especially if they are trying to save some money. I think saving for a rainy day (like when their car needed some repairs) is the mature and responsible thing to do and she should really be happy that her husband is looking out for their long-term goals instead of squandering away their money on frivolous things like most Americans do.. and then wind up in debt. If the wife wants more money to buy herself things then she can go get a job and use a portion of her earnings towards buying herself whatever luxuries she feels she needs. I don't know why she was so snobby about buying at Good Will, but I found it really obnoxious that she is "above" Good Will. Good Will has some great stuff. Oh, but he should probably get rid of that motorcycle and instead buy something they can both enjoy together. And in all fairness, as much as I praise him for being responsible, he needs to realize when he is being a scrooge (like not buying presents for the kids or a wedding ring for his wife).
Now... where Carlena is concerned... wow, I don't even know what to say. What a SPOILED BRAT! She needs to experience some form of struggle, or just simplicity, to realize what matters in life, she needs to see what is really beautiful and special about herself and about others and realize that it is definitely not the material things. What she is looking for, money cannot buy, and the sooner she realizes that, the sooner she will get herself out of debt... or at least stop going further into debt. Maybe a trip into the woods for a while, or a few weeks at some boot camp would break her down and make her appreciate the good things around her which would fill that void in her life that she tries to fill with all of that stuff! I belive it was her own oppinion that she didn't want to shop at the Good Will, or wear someone's other cloths.
I don't shop at good will either, its just something I would myself wouldn't want to wear someone's elses clothes. But they are a great organization and helps alot of people! |
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October 21, 2006, 12:07 am PDT
Quote From: stratisf I totally side with the cheapskate husband. Why does anyone need to buy name-brand peanut butter? They all are made of the same stuff! Especially if they are trying to save some money. I think saving for a rainy day (like when their car needed some repairs) is the mature and responsible thing to do and she should really be happy that her husband is looking out for their long-term goals instead of squandering away their money on frivolous things like most Americans do.. and then wind up in debt. If the wife wants more money to buy herself things then she can go get a job and use a portion of her earnings towards buying herself whatever luxuries she feels she needs. I don't know why she was so snobby about buying at Good Will, but I found it really obnoxious that she is "above" Good Will. Good Will has some great stuff. Oh, but he should probably get rid of that motorcycle and instead buy something they can both enjoy together. And in all fairness, as much as I praise him for being responsible, he needs to realize when he is being a scrooge (like not buying presents for the kids or a wedding ring for his wife).
Now... where Carlena is concerned... wow, I don't even know what to say. What a SPOILED BRAT! She needs to experience some form of struggle, or just simplicity, to realize what matters in life, she needs to see what is really beautiful and special about herself and about others and realize that it is definitely not the material things. What she is looking for, money cannot buy, and the sooner she realizes that, the sooner she will get herself out of debt... or at least stop going further into debt. Maybe a trip into the woods for a while, or a few weeks at some boot camp would break her down and make her appreciate the good things around her which would fill that void in her life that she tries to fill with all of that stuff! This is not about the peanut butter or Good Will. It is about her husband having complete control over the money. I am sure that if his wife had a paycheck coming in he would decide how that was spent as well. He is her husband, not her father. I can only imagine how it would feel if I had to ask my husband every time I wanted to spend any money. I'm sure it can be pretty humiliating.
There is nothing wrong with generic food or Good Will, I have taken advantage of both from time to time. I didn't get the impression the wife felt she was above this. I'm sure she feels that she is worth the extra 75 cents or so to have peanut butter she prefers or to have a few new items to reward her weight loss success. I did not get the impression that the income was at such a level that this would not effect the budget. Is that 75 cents worth having an unhappy wife? Worth making your spouse feel she is unvalued? Imagine if you had to clear it with your spouse if you wanted Charmin vs generic or what brand of personal items you were aloud to buy?
A marriage should be a partnership and the budget should be decided by both people. If I really like Jiff peanut butter and it is within our budget I am going to make the decision myself to buy it, not be told by my spouse that he will let me.
I loved everything else you had to say. That Carlena is surely a piece of work! |
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