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March 18, 2007, 12:19 am PDT
Someone I can identify with
Quote From: zoeyrn5 I am a forty-two year old empty nester.....and I'm miserable. I had four children by the age of 23. Happily married to their father for the last 25 years. I was so used to having my children near me........that when the last one left the house, I was totally heartbroken. My husband and I raised all of our children to be independent and self-sufficient......so it's not that I'm too terribly worried about them. I just miss being a part of their everyday life. I know.....waaa.....waaa. My house echoes of all the past memories of getting the kids ready for school....cooking dinner...
going to sports activities. Now there is nothing but silence.....and it's deafening. I have a career as a nurse, several hobbies, and lot's of close friends. BUT........... Hi, I am glad to finally read about someone else who is just truly heartbroken over all the kids being out of the house. I have 2 boys, 20 and 24. I have been happily married to their father for 21 years and still love him so much, maybe more. I wrapped myself up in my children's lives when they were born. I dreamed of having a house full of kids, but was very fortunate to have these 2. They are also self-sufficient and happy in their lives, which I am so proud of, but that hasn't stopped me from missing them and wanting to be in their life everyday. Do you ever feel like someone came along and took your whole meaning of life from you? I knew if I never did anything right in my life, I could always say, I was a good mother. I always thought I could protect them from everything bad in life, because I would always be "right there". Now I feel lost. Like you said, even having a wonderful husband, a good job and lots of friends, nothing replaces the love, laughter, warmth and security of a child. I hope things get better, like everyone says, but it's hard to believe this pain will ever go away.
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