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September 8, 2005, 6:28 pm PDT
 Quote From: the_indian Maybe it's just me, or maybe I'm missing something, but some of what you're saying doesn't add up.
For one thing, you say you've been on waiting lists for "sober houses". If you're still using every day, this is nonsensical, since sober houses always require a period of sobriety. And I'd guess that's especially true if the home allows kids. You wouldn't even pass the UA they give you at the door!
Then you say you have to be in an inpatient program or you'll go to jail. Again, why the search for sober houses if you need to be in an inpatient program? And are you sure that's your only option? Since inpatient programs are costly and many can't afford them, I find it a bit surprising that this would be your only choice other than jail.
I mention the above because I truthfully can't tell whether you're genuinely confused or you're misrepresenting the situation on purpose.
Also, are you sure you're really ready to do what it takes to get and stay sober? I know you want to stop using as a way to avoid jail, but that's not the same thing at all. And it's not even about the recognition of the damage you're doing to yourself and your children.
It's never hopeless, and there are things that you can do and lots of people who care, but if you're truly reaching out for help, take a few minutes and please clarify the situation. What exactly do you need to do (legally) and what is the timeframe? Have you attended any AA or NA meetings? The people in these meetings have "been there and done that" -- they might know resources you're not aware of. Is there anyone who can help care for your kids for an extended period of time??
OK, I WILL START OVER FROM THE BEGINING. iT'S NOT SOBER HOUSES THAT I AM LOOKING FOR, I HAVE LOOKED INTO THEM. I AM TRYING TO GET INTO A 4 MONTH INPATIENT 4 MONTH OUT PATIENT PROGRAM CALOLED NEW DIRECTIONS FOR FAMILIES. iT IS FOR MOTHERS AND THEIR CHILDREN. IT IS A PROGRAM THAT NOT ONLY HELPS WITH DRUG TREATMENT BUT ALSO PARENTING, JOB TRAINING GED AND YOU ARE EMPLOYED AFTER THE FIRST TWO MONTHS. I HAVE ALREADY BEEN CLEAN FOR THREE WEEKS NOW, BUT I KNOW THAT I NEED TO BE IN AN INPATIENT PROGRAM ASAP. I AM NOT JUST DOING THIS SO I DONT GO TO JAIL, I HAVE BEEN TRYING SINCE BEFORE I KNEW IT WAS GOING TO BE A PART OF MY PROBATION. THE REASON I SAY IT IS THIS OR PRISON IS BECAUSE I KNOW THAT IF I DONT GET INTO A PROGRAM I WONT BE ABLE TO MAKE IT THROUGH PROBATION. THIS IS MY LAST CHANCE ON PROBATION, IF I AM REVOKED AGAIN THE ONLY ALTERNATIVE IS A PRISON SENTENCE OF UP TO 12 YEARS. I HAVE GONE TO APPLIED FOR COLORADO WORKS BECAUSE I WAS TOLD THAT THEY ASSIST WITH PAYMENT. I WAS ALSO TOLD THAT CHILD PROTECTION/SOCIAL SERVICES WOULD HELP, BUT WHEN I CONTACTED THEM THEY TOLD ME THAT I NEEDED TO HAVE AN OPEN CASE OR BE FIGHTING FOR CUSTODY OF MY CHILDREN IN ORDER FOR THEM TO HELP WITH THE PAYMENT. I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY THERE ISNT MORE RESOURCES TO HELP PEOPLE THAT WANT TO GET HELP. THEY OUT WAY TOO MUCH MONEY INTO THE PRISON SYSTEM WHEN THEY COULD PUT A LITTLE SOMETHING TOWARD REHABILITATION CENTERS. THERE REALLY ISNT A TIMEFRAME, I SAW MY PROBATION OFFICER YESTERDAY AND SHE TOLD ME THAT SHE DOESNT CARE WHAT I HAVE TO DO BUT I NEED TO BE IN THIS PROGRAM BY SEPT. 19. OR SHE WILL CONCIDER REVOKING ME. SHE HAS MADE IT CLEAR THAT IT HAS TO BE THIS CERTAIN PROGRAM AND HAS TO BE INPATIENT. I WOULD BE WILLING TO GO INTO A PROGRAM THAT DOESNT TAKE THE KIDS, THE ONLY PROBLEM WITH THAT IS I DONT HAVE ANYONE THAT WILL TAKE MY SON. MY PARENTS WILL ONLY TAKE MY DAUGHTER. THEY HAVE TOLD MEE IF IT COMES DOWN TO THAT THEY ARE PREPARRED TO PUT HIM IN A FOSTER HOME. HIS DAD IS IN COMMUNITY CORRECTION RIGHT NOW FOR METH TOO. WE ARE STILL TOGHETHER AND HE HAS BEEN CLEAN 8 MONTHS NOW AND IS THE ONLY ONE SUPPORTING ME (EMOTIONALY). IT IS NOT AN OPTION FOR HIM TO TAKE OUR SON UNTIL HE IS NON RESIDENTIAL WHICH COULD BE 6 MORE MONTHS. I AM NOT WILLING TO PUT MY SON IN A FOSTER HOME!!! I AM TOTALLY READY TO GET SOBER I HAVE NEVER BEEN MORE READY. I HAVE NEVER ASKED FOR HELP OR EVEN WANTED THE HELP. I |
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