Quote From: toshinshi (* The Dr. Phil site needs more variety. This is the best place I could find to post my problem.*)
I almost envy you gay guys. I know its hard, but once you come out you can go about finding 'someone'.
I'm transsexual. I like men; but instead of being happy as a normal straight girl my mind is fixed on becomeing a man. I cannot see myself loving a man as a woman. I know you all think I'm crazy for wanting the life of a gay man over a straight girl, and I agree. I've felt this way for a long time now and I'm pretty young, so I think this is built-in. Its problematic, I'm something of am extream sexest to women because of it and certain members of my family (grandpa) like to call me a dyke. T_T;
I admit, I do try my hardest to look male; even to the point of degrading my health. But its no good. Looking like a man doent mean anything unless your anatomically one.
I need a little help; what should I do? Seek counciling? Persue it? Or should I just give up and put on a dress? I doubt I could ever afford the surgery (around $50,000 at least), and the result isnt exactlly 'good looking'. Most of all what and how should I tell my folks? My big sis knows and I think my mom does, but what about everyone else? I'm very confused...
hi!!! iv'e been reading your posts lately( new member) and you've really inspired me!!! you're soo strong...i can't believe that someone who's SOOOO young has to deal with this!!! You're amazing...
i wanted to tell you that because you're so young that it may not be best to tell your family just yet.I feel that before you throw them something like that you should probably wait a while. I say this because of two things! when i told my mom about my sexuality...she didn't react well because i was so young. And two,as time went by she realized that my attraction's weren't just a faze( now that i'm going to college and am old enough to make my own decisions, it's become easier to talk to her about it.)Your family might be thinking that what yu're feeling is just a faze too!!! Over time they'll realize how serious you are about it . I'm not sure how your parents react to things so...my advice might be of no use to you T_T but...as time goes by , little by little you know, try to open that "window" and get a little talk here and thereabout your feelings and/ or things relating to it so that when the time comes when you feel that you are ready to tell your family... it won't feel like as big of a shockto them because of the little talksyou've had . Hopefully you could get something from this and im not waisting your time...sorry if i am...i would love to hear from you soon and from the looks of your icon there( the anime guy) you seem like you'de be ALOT of fun:)
