Replies to '11/03 Shocking Accusations'

My husband and I have been married for 16 years and have 3 kids of our own in addition to my husband's daughter who is 17. Years ago there was no term "parental alienation" but her mother tried everything she could to do it - the court system let us down when she consistantly denied visitation- We saw her 5 or 6 times a year instead of the 2 days per week in the court order. The court did eventually appoint a parental coordinator but the coordinator quit after a month on the job- they never reappointed one and our family counselor told us we could never have a fulflilling relationship by forcing visitation through the court  -we learned lawyers only wanted billable hours- Her mother even accused our (5 year old at the time) son of sexually abusing his (then 10 year old) sister...When she was 14 her mother moved 1500 miles away to keep her from us. We had our rough years but I am proud to say we hung in there and she has recently moved in with us...She says her mother will be unhappy no matter what but she is happy now. Her mother cries and tells her she betrayed her by moving in with her Dad and begs to see her ...though at 17 she has a very busy life...There is a lesson here....good parents don't give up on their children & what comes around goes around