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"Well, thankfully some of us have a whole lot more sense and love and respect then to allow this crap to happen within our marriages"

Your comment implies that child abuse is something a senseless mother "allows" in her family.  I suspect that you aren't too enlightened on this subject, and perhaps you should do some reasearch.

I agree with you that Dr. Phil should do a show on couples who ARE working.  I met my wife on the telephone when I lived in the Florida Keys and she lived in Calgary.  We had almost nothing in common.  She was raised by strict religious parents on a Saskatchewan farm, and I was raised by a  Teamster in New York City.  When she called the educational tourist attraction for which I worked, looking for info, she and I hit it off.

Four inches of calling cards later, I decided to go to Canada to meet her.  I took a Greyhound bus from about 100 miles north of Havana, Cuba to Calgary, Alberta, which is alleged to not be too far from the north pole.   On the bus ride across the Canadian Prairie, I met a couple dozen students from Quebec who were heading to B.C. for summer jobs.  We didn't speak the same language, but a couple had guitars, and so did I, and we knew some of the same songs.  We jammed on that bus through the night across Manitoba and Alberta.  Everyone including the driver was into the music.  I told a couple of the co-eds about my romantic journey, and they were spellbound.

By the time I got to my stop in Brooks Alberta (near Calgary - she was eager to meet me and drove to a couple stops before Calgary to do so!), I had a new "family" of French Canadians who got off the bus with me.  When I went to get my luggage, they all walked over to the woman I was to meet and started introducing themselves as if they were my old friends.  When I met this woman for the first time, it was with a circle of a couple dozen students around us!  

We got into her car, and as we drove out of the parking lot, my entire new "family" was standing outside the bus waving at us.

Six weeks later we were married, and it was the best thing I ever did.  That was just over four years ago.  We had a lot of struggles especially in the first months, but we worked them through.  In spite of not having a lot of things in common other than beliefs, we have crafted a beautiful marriage.  I'd love to tell our story on a special Dr. Phil Valentine's Day episode of couples that WORK to make their marriages successful.