Replies to 'Being a Good Friend'

Dear Germankim  

I've been out for some years now and the biggest thing I've learnt is go with your heart on this one.  Love is love and if you both feel it then you should explore it.  Being with someone you love but are not in love with is unfair to both you and him.  Compassion and empathy for him is required as he will be devestated and won't understand...it's your call if you tell him the truth...be gentle on yourself and him.  I don't know his nature so I can't say if you should have escape plan on hand. Some guys get offended, some think it's kinky...sorry that's human nature...you know him better than anyone...use your intuition on this one...I say go for it Girl...When it comes to families...well my parents have known since I was 21 and it's taken me 14 years to finally get the message into their heads...they still don't get it...and never will...I'm not bothered by that anymore...it hurt for a long time then just recently I wrote them a very long letter, and in it referenced my love for people of the same sex...(I've been out with both) it was the way I was born...and after years of beating myself up about it...I finally accepted it...this is your life...being happy is very important and being with someone who loves and accepts you is extremely important...you know what too do...don't let FEAR get in the way of happiness.  I think it's cool she kept the letters...what a babe...I hope you both find your way...  

Sugajazz