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September 12, 2005, 2:05 am PDT

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English is not my language but I'll try to write my best. My husband was told at the age 31 he was adopted, he is now 38. He was born in San Francisco at the San Francis Memorial Hosp. 

  

Several years ago we started looking for information and in the way we have discovered that his adoption was not done very normal since there is no registration at the court of SF. Anyway, with the few info that his adoptive mother gave us we found a birth certificate in which states the name of his biological mother and father, their age and their birthplace. We hired a detective through the internet and he gave us useless info that leads nowhere. We have also use other internet resourses and always end up whith nothing.  

  

My husband is tired and hopeless of spending money without getting any feasible clue and I dont want him to give up. My husband was raised in Mexico, he's adoptive father died when he was 10 years old and his adoptive mother doesnt remember much of the process (or at least she doesnt want to remmember) . We live now in the Netherlands since 2 years ago, from here there are not many tools to continue but the internet. 

  

I really wish that some day any of his biological family read this post. He only wants to tell them that he is ok, and that his b.mother has 3 beautiful grandchildren. 

It's me again..I would like to share more information that  I miss in my previous post. My husband was born in San Francisco, Ca. at the San Francis Memorial Hospital in May 04, 1967, His biological mother was 16 at the time of birth,  her last name is Ely and she was from Massachussets, his biolgical father was 18 and last name is Alvarez.  My husband was adopted together with another babygirl, they were told that they were twins, but they are no blood related, she was born in June.  

I have heard that are people called ANGELS who help adoptees to find their relatives....Does anyone could advise me in how to find a reliable source to search for my husband family?...How do I find and ANGEL?...I wish to help my husband to meet his bmother some day. Thank you Dr. Phil. 

 
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May 29, 2007, 9:07 pm PDT

Searching for Birth Parents

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English is not my language but I'll try to write my best. My husband was told at the age 31 he was adopted, he is now 38. He was born in San Francisco at the San Francis Memorial Hosp. 

  

Several years ago we started looking for information and in the way we have discovered that his adoption was not done very normal since there is no registration at the court of SF. Anyway, with the few info that his adoptive mother gave us we found a birth certificate in which states the name of his biological mother and father, their age and their birthplace. We hired a detective through the internet and he gave us useless info that leads nowhere. We have also use other internet resourses and always end up whith nothing.  

  

My husband is tired and hopeless of spending money without getting any feasible clue and I dont want him to give up. My husband was raised in Mexico, he's adoptive father died when he was 10 years old and his adoptive mother doesnt remember much of the process (or at least she doesnt want to remmember) . We live now in the Netherlands since 2 years ago, from here there are not many tools to continue but the internet. 

  

I really wish that some day any of his biological family read this post. He only wants to tell them that he is ok, and that his b.mother has 3 beautiful grandchildren. 

Tell your husband that he is not the only person that has gone throught this. I was born 10/7/1982 in Galveston,TX.  I found out when i was 19 that i was adopted. My adoption was not legal. My birthmom could not take care of me and her and my birth parents made a plan where she would go into the hospital when she was in labor and use my adopted mothers name and birthdate but change the birth years. My biological mother was 24 and my adopted mom at the time was 48! so big age difference so they had to change the year of birth. my birth mom never had pre-natal care, and when she went into labor she went to the hospital she acted like she was my adopted mom and put that my adopted dad was the father. I had a heart murmur when i was born so i had to stay longer in the hospital than her. so she signed a release under my adopted mother's name and was discharged and never seen again. so a week later when it was time to pick me up my adopted mother went into the hospital showed her ID and they released me to her. They never id'd my birth mother when she was in labor or after. so they never knew she was lying. so it was very hard trying to find my birth mom. especially when i found out about my adoption by accident. my adopted mom denied it for a long time! And everyone refused to talk to me about it. all i had was her first name. slowly but surely i found out her last name. (someone told me) and i looked for forever it seemed. but i worked for an ex- police chief and told him my story and he helped me find her by "pulling some strings". we found her. And she wanted nothing to do with me. In fact I think she hates me. She refuses to tell me who my father is. I know that his name was either Ioannis or Costas. He was in the country illegally from Greece. He worked at a restraunt/bar names Zorba's. He was short, green eyes, light brn/blonde hair. He had a best friend named Dimitri or Dimitris. Last known city they lived in was HOuston, Tx. and this was in '82. there are still people in my family that know who my father is but wont talk to me about it. They act like they dont remember anything,. Its infuriating! your husband had my deepest sympathy. I KNOW what he's going through! Not very many people can say that.
 
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May 31, 2007, 10:04 pm PDT

I am glad that your husband found his father

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English is not my language but I'll try to write my best. My husband was told at the age 31 he was adopted, he is now 38. He was born in San Francisco at the San Francis Memorial Hosp. 

  

Several years ago we started looking for information and in the way we have discovered that his adoption was not done very normal since there is no registration at the court of SF. Anyway, with the few info that his adoptive mother gave us we found a birth certificate in which states the name of his biological mother and father, their age and their birthplace. We hired a detective through the internet and he gave us useless info that leads nowhere. We have also use other internet resourses and always end up whith nothing.  

  

My husband is tired and hopeless of spending money without getting any feasible clue and I dont want him to give up. My husband was raised in Mexico, he's adoptive father died when he was 10 years old and his adoptive mother doesnt remember much of the process (or at least she doesnt want to remmember) . We live now in the Netherlands since 2 years ago, from here there are not many tools to continue but the internet. 

  

I really wish that some day any of his biological family read this post. He only wants to tell them that he is ok, and that his b.mother has 3 beautiful grandchildren. 

Hey Mercedes,

     I am so very happy for you that your husband has found his father.

 


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