Quote From: mjlundeI'm a attractive 59 yr old single woman. I haven't been out a date since 1993. Men don't approach me for dates, although I have male friends. I live in a rather small (34,000) city in Northern Michigan. I'm confident, self-sufficient and I have a good sense of humor. I believe it is very hard to have the nice qualities I have, (not being narcissistic), because men are afraid to work for what they want. It's much easier for most men my age to go with younger girls whom are naive and young. This way they don't have to work at a relationship. I truly believe that men have become "lazy" in working on a good relationship, and why shouldn't they. From what I've seen a lot of women are to aggressive and easy, therefore men don't have to really work at a healthy, lasting, loving and solid relationship. I need to be stimulated mentally, this is really hard to get.
I feel your pain. I'm in a similar boat. The truth is I'm no less shallow than the men are. In my youth, even though I was never above average in looks, being flat-chested and all, I found my niche and dated exceptionally attractive creative men. Truth is now I'm spoiled and if I found one that met my old standards, they'd be attractive enough to get a young woman, which is what they all do if they can. I've always said I'd rather go without than settle, and I have stuck to my guns. Most men don't like women over 35 because we're no longer bubbly and naive and wearing rose-colored glasses. In other words, we are onto them. They characterize this as "carrying baggage," which always amuses me since the baggage we're carrying is the baggage they left us with.
On a side note, I can't help but notice that most talk show hosts, including Dr. Phil, approach male/female topics assuming women are only dating as an end to getting married. And Dr. Phil has very good advice for that. But you know, especially when you're young, why should you only date men you'd want to marry? Men certainly never take that path. I fell in love with more than one man that I knew I'd never want to marry. Nothing wrong with that as long as you're preventing pregnancies, IMO.
