Replies to '11/03 Shocking Accusations'

How do you know its an excuse? It comments like that, that make it hard for us good parents to be heard when we are trying to protect our children. At the same time, as parents we also have to deal with guilt that we feel to have children that have told us that we failed to protect them, if they were in fact sexually abused.

I have said I am going through the same thing. I DO believe in God and I do believe my faith gave me the strength to leave an abusive relationship. Even my children are religious. My youngest said yesterday. " I told daddy he touched my peepee at the restaurant and he said he didnt touch my peepee, he lied and god is going to punish him right mama?" (4 yrs old words) You can not blame both parents. Maybe one of the parents is at fault but who is to say who. Is the mom putting it in her head? did the dad in fact do it? How can you know? I know in my case my kids came to me and told me their dad molested them, he sais he didnt, he knows if he did or not, I have no idea what the truth is or why they are saying it. He is willing to take a lie detector test but I think it woudl be useless as he has no conscience, he could lie as easily as he can breath. Either of those parents could be as sick in the head as my ex is. I could see my ex either having done it, or having put it in their head, but the second scenario would not make sense and I think my kids would tell me if he had told them to say it. They only say he did it. I hope youll consider there may be something to this little girls tantrums and not necesarily bad parenting.