Quote From: sccutie960 We have alot in common. I have never said a bad word about his sperm donor. That is what I think of his father. But the bad thing is my son wants to see him and ask about him all of the time. This hurts pretty bad. I feel like he is going to hate me in the long run. I just his father would wake up, and realize he has a great son that wants to be a part of his life.
Although I do worry if I have to see him, because I went through so really messed up times. He was my first LOVE and if I am totally honest about it my only true LOVE. All I can do to keep me sane is remember him leaving and never returning. I refuse to keep calling and writing, because that only looks like I want him to be apart of my life. So what do I say to my son when he ask me questions??????????? Please help I am losing my mind over this!!!!!!!!!!!
Maranda
Hi, I was 19 when I had my son. His dad and I were only together for four months(he was my first real love) and we split when I was 2 months along. He left me for someone else and she got pregnant also. My son has a brother that is 5 months younger then he. I never kept his dad away, infact I was the one that wanted him around. I grew up most of my life without my dad. When my son was around 4 mounths old his dad stopped comming around. When my son turned 3 years old I got ahold of his grandparents number and called them for any info they could give me about my sons dad. They gave me his new address, so I wrote him an update letter and sent I am sure 3 photo albums worth of pictures. He called and I let him talk to our son, while I held up a pic so my son could see his dad while talking to him. A few months later he showed up at my door. The most painful, yet happy time in my life. My son jumped out of my arms and into his dad's. (He hasnt been the same since.)We got back together and stayed together for a little more then 7 years. We split up a little over a year ago,(He went back to the other girl again) and I have had to fight with him just to pay child support. He has made one full payment (200 Canadian dollars a month). A month ago he moved across the country, and we havent heard from him since. My son did think of his dad as being a god. Until he started seeing for himself what his dad really cares about, which apparently is money. It breaks my heart because everyday I see the pain in my sons eyes. He knows that I love him unconditionally, and he realizes that no matter what, Mom is always gonna be here. I guess I would have to say... If I could turn back time, I wouldnt have bothered to find him again. I just felt that my son deserved to know his dad.
I think that depending on how old your son is, be honest with him. If you know where his dad is tell him where he is. If he wants to continue to know him, just be there if his dad turns out to be an @@@####. You wont always have the answers, but you will always have communication.
Good Luck to you.
Jessica
