Replies to '11/03 Shocking Accusations'

That's one point I tried to make in one of my previous messages.  It's easy to say "I would do this, or that!" But we never really know until we have been there! 

 

Proving a case of child abuse can be very difficult!   Especially when the CPS is having to deal with so many issues and many of them are false accusations.  I am not referring to this case.  But in general, they have a big job on their hands.  And despite my respect for DR Phil, and so far I am well pleased with the way he is handling these cases, I don't think he realizes the incompentencies of some people in these positions.

 

As I have stated, with my dealings with the CPS, I have been lucky to have dealt with professionals who seem to have their hearts and minds in the right place.  But still speaking in general terms, there are many cases where the case-workers are blinded by their own selfish views, and we have horrible results.

 

These are many cases where children who are truly abused end up in the custody of the abusive parents, and this can be based on who has the most money, and can buy out the case workers, judges, etc.

 

Then you have the cases in which a vindictive parent will use the child as a pawn, and basically brainwash the child, and falsely report that their ex-spouse, or whomever has molested a child. 

 

These are both very serious situations, and I think this is why DR Phil was so firm with both sides in this matter.  The child always has to come first. 

 

There's a passage in the Bible, and I should remember the details, but I just cannot at the time.  But a wise king, acting as a judge had two women who were fighting over the custody of a child, both claiming the child belonged to her.  The wise king, I want to say Solomon, I may be wrong suggested that the baby be cut in half, and half given to each woman.  The real mother said no, let her have the child.  And of course the king knew that this was the true mother.

 

I think this is more of a metaphor, or symbolic of how some people literally tear our children in half, pulling them in both directions, and neither one is willing to let go in order to protect the child. 

 

THE CHILD IS ALWAYS THE VICTIM IN THESE CASES OF SELFISH PARENTS WHO USES THE CHILD AS A PAWN, AND DO NOT CARE, OR HAVE ENOUGH CONCERN TO STOP AND THINK ABOUT THE PAIN THEY ARE CAUSING THE CHILD TO SUFFER.

 

I believe that if more people got involved in the whole process, and we could establish a Watch-Dog system, and demand reform to the current CPS, we could make a difference.

 

There is strength in numbers.  And the more people we have involved and who are sincerely concerned about the well-being of the child, the better the results.  

 

I understand that people's emotions run high in a case like this.  But it's happening all around us.  We, as a society need to determine how to manage our communities, and be involved in one way or the other to make sure that CPS, and the entire system is doing the job in the best interest of the child.

 

We Are the People of the United States of America.  And if we can become united in one cause, one effort, and become one voice for our children, we can make a difference.

 

There needs to be a higher authority, a system based on the laws, and volunteers to step in when we have cases of child abuse that are reported, and there are contentions about the actions of CPS. 

 

I mentioned the Innocence Project in an earlier post.  What about a Child Abuse Resolution Project, or something of the sort that will make sure these cases are being handled properly.  There needs to be a higher authority if a parent, or other party is persisting that their child is being abused to step in, just as DR Phil has in this case, and get to the bottom of the issue.

 

I have all of these things structured in my mind.  And I will continue to plead with DR Phil and other organizations to come together in one effort to increase our efforts 100 fold in this campaign against child abuse. 

 

There are numerous organizations out there, and I posted a few earlier today.  We need to be contacting them, as well as DR Phil & CO in numbers, and be persistent.  Then we can make a difference.

 

First, we need a plan.  And that, I am working on.  If we can stop the cycle of abuse, or at least reduce it significantly, then our society would have a lot less problems.  We would not have so many adults who are severely depressed, committing suicide, homicides, and continued abuses. 

 

People tend to handle abuses in different ways.  Some will keep it to themselves, blame themselves, and be eaten alive for the rest of their lives being torn between reporting their own abuses, or keeping it in an devouring their own hearts, souls and minds.

 

Then others express their abuses outwardly by promiscuity, drugs, violence, and continuing the chain of abuses.

 

Others will get help at some point, and at least be able to come to terms with their abuses, and although we cannot erase their memories of these abuses, good and aggressive therapy will at least give them tools to cope.

 

Some block these things out of their minds, and become cold, and unable to become close to others as adults.  They instinctively learn to cope by turning off the mechanisms of feeling emotions towards others.  And many of these as well become violent criminals.  Some of the most violent criminals in our history were victims of child abuse.

 

We are at a stage in our medical science that we are beginning to be able to identify certain abnormalities of the brain through various means of detection.  But we can't, at this point, monitor the minds of every individual in order to determine if someone may have the tendencies to become a perpetrator, predator or violent criminal.

 

But I believe there are answers to reducing the number of cases of child molestation and child abuse, thus reducing the number of adults with their past either becoming self-destructive, or a destructive source of others.

 

GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU VERY MUCH!  LET'S KEEP ON, AND START FOCUSING ON THE ISSUE AS A WHOLE.  AS BAD AS I FEEL FOR LITTLE KAYLEE, I FEEL DR PHIL HAS THIS ONE UNDER CONTROL!

 

BUT WHAT ABOUT THE OTHER HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS OUT THERE?  WHAT CAN WE DO TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE?

 

ANY SUGGESTIONS?

 

How do we stop sexual predators?

http://www.drphil.com/messageboard/topic/1399/

Childhood Sexual Abuse Support

http://www.drphil.com/messageboard/topic/255/

 

A Child's Voice Connection, Prevent Child Abuse; Abductions

http://www.drphil.com/messageboard/topic/999/