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July 26, 2005, 2:01 pm PDT

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Wow, I can't believe it she is 4 and not potty trained my goodness. I seems to me you are to lenient on her getting her way all the time. I don't mean to offend in any way but 4 years old come on. She doesn't need any therapy you need to be consistant on what you do. I have hree daughters the oldest is 2 and was potty trained at 18 months and the twins are now 18 months are I have started potty training. They now understand what pipi and CACA (Poop) is and are starting to understand it is not riht to use it on there undies. I get them on panties when i get home from work and I am constantly asking if they want to pipi and taking them to the potty every 15 minutes until the pipi (urine) is in the potty. piecs of chocolate as a reward if they do and nothing if they don't.

Your daughter is now 4 years old take her to the potty make hersee that she is old enough and how she feels to be in diapers and the other kids in undies. but be consistent. Have you taken her to the store with her pants wet and tell her how everybody is looking at her wet. Just have patience and Consistent if you notice she is needing to go to the rest room take her don't let her run over you and get her way. Kids are very smart and can get you you trained if you are not as stubborn as they are.

Don't give up and keep at it Good Luck!

All kids are different in this area as well as all other areas when it comes to growing and maturing. I do not believe manipulation and degrading a child is the right thing to do when it comes to teaching them things. My oldest child was potty trained by the the time she was 2 and of course regressed when her little sister was born which is a very normal thing, I wasn't concerned a bit. 2 weeks before she turned 3, I told her that when she turned 3 she was going to start wearing panties and just about every day, we would talk about the panties and on her her birthday, the pull ups were gone and the panties it was and she was perfectly fine. Now with my 2 in a half year old, she is really just starting to be interested in going potty. I started with her right around 2 but she showed no signs whatsoever of understanding, quite different then her big sister, but I have no problem, now when she is yukky, she knows she needs to be changed and will go sit on the potty. I do not push my kids but when they are ready to do something the signs are there, I do sit her on the potty consistently and know she will be potty trained soon. As far as these older children who know what to do, maybe get a timer and whenever the timer goes off they must go potty. , I think communication and constantly reminding them to go potty is imporant. Even though my oldest has been potty trained for almost 2 years, she still has to be reminded to go potty becasue she is too busy playing, too involved in her own little world. :) Reward systems are great, They are incentives to get the child to make the right choices and when something is done on a regular basis, it becomes a habit so use stickers, marbels, whatever will get the child's attention and eventually it will happen, just takes time..
 
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July 26, 2005, 9:50 pm PDT

Potty Training

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Wow, I can't believe it she is 4 and not potty trained my goodness. I seems to me you are to lenient on her getting her way all the time. I don't mean to offend in any way but 4 years old come on. She doesn't need any therapy you need to be consistant on what you do. I have hree daughters the oldest is 2 and was potty trained at 18 months and the twins are now 18 months are I have started potty training. They now understand what pipi and CACA (Poop) is and are starting to understand it is not riht to use it on there undies. I get them on panties when i get home from work and I am constantly asking if they want to pipi and taking them to the potty every 15 minutes until the pipi (urine) is in the potty. piecs of chocolate as a reward if they do and nothing if they don't.

Your daughter is now 4 years old take her to the potty make hersee that she is old enough and how she feels to be in diapers and the other kids in undies. but be consistent. Have you taken her to the store with her pants wet and tell her how everybody is looking at her wet. Just have patience and Consistent if you notice she is needing to go to the rest room take her don't let her run over you and get her way. Kids are very smart and can get you you trained if you are not as stubborn as they are.

Don't give up and keep at it Good Luck!

I am being as consistent as i can: She wears underwear all day, pull ups at night, I ignore accidents and reward success. I don't believe in shaming a child but yes, she has spent plenty of time in wet pants at the store, park, zoo, you name it. And this has been going on for a year. So you tell me when these wet pants might start to bother her. Don't worry you didn't offend but you might want to be more careful about the words you choose. Judging people and thier parenting when you don't even know them. Don't you think people come to this board when they just don't know what else to do? If we could all only be so lucky to have children as perfect as yours!
 
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May 23, 2007, 6:29 pm PDT

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Wow, I can't believe it she is 4 and not potty trained my goodness.  I seems to me you are to lenient on her getting her way all the time.  I don't mean to offend in any way but 4 years old come on. She doesn't need any therapy you need to be consistant on what you do.  I have hree daughters the oldest is 2 and was potty trained at 18 months and the twins are now 18 months are I have started potty training.  They now understand what pipi and CACA (Poop) is and are starting to understand it is not riht to use it on there undies.  I get them on panties when i get home from work and I am constantly asking if they want to pipi and taking them to the potty every 15 minutes until the pipi (urine) is in the potty. piecs of chocolate as a reward if they do and nothing if they don't. 

 

Your daughter is now 4 years old take her to the potty make her see that she is old enough and how she feels to be in diapers and the other kids in undies. but be consistent.  Have you taken her to the store with her pants wet and tell her how everybody is looking at her wet.  Just have patience and Consistent if you notice she is needing to go to the rest room take her don't let her run over you and get her way.  Kids are very smart and can get you you trained if you are not as stubborn as they are.

 

Don't give up and keep at it Good Luck! 

It worries me that you would suggest shaming your child. Is this a form of discipline for you? I can tell you that I grew up being shamed and it is not going to have a positive effect in the long run. It took a lot of work and therapists to help me see that my fear of people not liking me or the way I look was the result of harsh (and unnecessary) criticism from my mother. There are so many other ways to train your child to use the toilet. I hope the woman with the untrained 4 year old was not hurt by your critique, but I was shocked.

 
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January 28, 2008, 5:08 pm PST

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Wow, I can't believe it she is 4 and not potty trained my goodness.  I seems to me you are to lenient on her getting her way all the time.  I don't mean to offend in any way but 4 years old come on. She doesn't need any therapy you need to be consistant on what you do.  I have hree daughters the oldest is 2 and was potty trained at 18 months and the twins are now 18 months are I have started potty training.  They now understand what pipi and CACA (Poop) is and are starting to understand it is not riht to use it on there undies.  I get them on panties when i get home from work and I am constantly asking if they want to pipi and taking them to the potty every 15 minutes until the pipi (urine) is in the potty. piecs of chocolate as a reward if they do and nothing if they don't. 

 

Your daughter is now 4 years old take her to the potty make her see that she is old enough and how she feels to be in diapers and the other kids in undies. but be consistent.  Have you taken her to the store with her pants wet and tell her how everybody is looking at her wet.  Just have patience and Consistent if you notice she is needing to go to the rest room take her don't let her run over you and get her way.  Kids are very smart and can get you you trained if you are not as stubborn as they are.

 

Don't give up and keep at it Good Luck! 

WOW!  I can not believe how rude and judgmental you are!  Message boards are for parents that are frustrated and seeking advice.  I'm having the same problem.  My son potty trained within two weeks of turning 3 and my daughter turns 4 next month and I have worked with her for over a year and can not get to fully potty trained.  I came to the message board to find out what other parents had success with..........but was amazed that you would write something so harsh to a frustrated parent!  I am also not lenient with my child and I do not let her run all over me.  I've considered contacting our pediatrician to see if there is a medical condition that is preventing her from making to the potty 100 percent of the time.  I am a worried, frustrated mother and seeing your e-mail response angered me.  In the future, before you respond, choose your words more carefully.
 
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February 4, 2009, 1:11 pm PST

Must be nice to be the perfect parent

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Wow, I can't believe it she is 4 and not potty trained my goodness.  I seems to me you are to lenient on her getting her way all the time.  I don't mean to offend in any way but 4 years old come on. She doesn't need any therapy you need to be consistant on what you do.  I have hree daughters the oldest is 2 and was potty trained at 18 months and the twins are now 18 months are I have started potty training.  They now understand what pipi and CACA (Poop) is and are starting to understand it is not riht to use it on there undies.  I get them on panties when i get home from work and I am constantly asking if they want to pipi and taking them to the potty every 15 minutes until the pipi (urine) is in the potty. piecs of chocolate as a reward if they do and nothing if they don't. 

 

Your daughter is now 4 years old take her to the potty make her see that she is old enough and how she feels to be in diapers and the other kids in undies. but be consistent.  Have you taken her to the store with her pants wet and tell her how everybody is looking at her wet.  Just have patience and Consistent if you notice she is needing to go to the rest room take her don't let her run over you and get her way.  Kids are very smart and can get you you trained if you are not as stubborn as they are.

 

Don't give up and keep at it Good Luck! 

I can't believe you could be so judgemental.  I mean, I find it hard to believe that there has not been ONE aspect of parenting that had you completely flustered.  Maybe potty training was a breeze for you and your children, but I am willing to bet any amount of money that you yourself have been at your wits end dealing with some other parenting issues (sleeping thru night, bed wetting, tantrums, refusal to eat, biting, hitting, name calling, getting rid of the bottle/binky, sharing).  And just think of how "wonderful" it would have felt if when you were seeking help, someone were to pass judgement on you. 

I have 2 children.  The first potty trained with no major problems.  My youngest is almost 4.  She never pees in her undies and stays dry all night, but still has  poop accidents.  I have taken her for frequent trips to the potty, and did rewards, and talks, books, dolls that pee and poop, play doh fun factory, special panties, brought her in with me to watch.  But it sadly comes down to, she is simply not ready to do it emotionally.  So I think it would be far more helpful to emotionally support a child and reassure them that they will get it than it is to humiliate them publicly and make them feel badly about themselves.  Very poor advice.  I am sure the mom is under enough pressure from family, friends and teachers, maybe some support would have been nice.

 

 

 

 

 


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