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September 9, 2005, 11:11 am PDT

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I think I have come to the conclusion that I am depressed. I get very little work done at work, I’m tired most of the time, I don’t do anything at home either. I used to be very good about making appointments for the kids and I but I drag my feet on that now too. I really miss my old self. I have made an appointment with the doctor and waiting for a call back from the psychologist but I need to do something before then, I have so much work to do that I have let pile up. I have things in my IN basket that need attention.  

   

  

I don’t take the time to do anything for myself anymore either, I used to like doing crafts, reading  and crocheting but I very seldom do that. I went on a holiday to my aunts this year for 10 days, did nothing but read, crochet and shop. I thought that would help but it hasn’t. I do nothing all day at work except play on the computer checking email etc.  

   

  

I don’t know that is causing this depression, I have an idea. In 2000 my mom passed away she was only 53, then that same year I got divorced ( that was a good thing), three weeks after I moved out with my 2 daughters I met someone (that has been a challenge, I have a lot of baggage and 2 teenage daughters) then in 2003 my dad passed away while we where on holidays with him in the Caribbean. That left me real devasted, we were very close and very much alike. I don’t think I every really got a chance to grieve, we have been dealing with his girlfriend at the time, she wasn’t with him long enough to go after the estate so instead she came up with a bogus claim for her personal stuff that she said was in the house but it is stuff that we never saw and may have been in all the stuff that she moved out. 3 years ago my boyfriend moved in with me, we have now been engaged for 2 years. But we always fight and it is usually about my daughters, I am very family orientated including kids but he is not, he doesn’t talk or acknowledge them very much and they don’t like him that much, I think one reason is they are being guarded because of the way he is with them and they don’t want to betray their father. He brought up where the adults and “adult time” I think most of the time it was adult time, but I grew up where the kids are always included and that is how I am I love having kids around.  

   

  

Well there is most of my story I think, but I could really use some advise on what to do till I can get to the dr. next Thursday.  

Welcome to the board. If you would like you are more than welcome to continue to post here if it helps you to feel better and more supported. That might help you get by until Thursday. But if you feel like it is too long of a wait I would could the office and see if you can get in sooner. Usually, they will find a way.  

  

I am not a professional so I can say that you do or do not suffer from depression but you do have the symptoms most people present with depression. It is a battle I know. I often finding myself looking at things in my house and saying "Yep, I need to that," but that is as far as it goes. But if I actually get up and get started on something it is like my adrenaline kicks in and I get motivated to get other things done. Exercise has the same effect. 

  

I agree with you where your children are concerned and I believe that children should be included in family time not the old adage," Speak when your spoken to," or " children should be seen not heard." I know with my daughter when my husband, her and I went out we always took turns picking where we were going to go so she had input too. Unfortunately, my husband will be moving out this week-end. Which is probably a good thing here too but it still doesn't erase the love we've shared. 

  

My point being is it sounds like you have had a lot to grieve for over the past few years and I think you are doing the right thing in helping yourself by seeking help to get through it now. I wish you well in this and if you want to talk feel free to come back. 

 
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September 9, 2005, 11:13 am PDT

First three links helped me after my mother died

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I think I have come to the conclusion that I am depressed. I get very little work done at work, I’m tired most of the time, I don’t do anything at home either. I used to be very good about making appointments for the kids and I but I drag my feet on that now too. I really miss my old self. I have made an appointment with the doctor and waiting for a call back from the psychologist but I need to do something before then, I have so much work to do that I have let pile up. I have things in my IN basket that need attention.  

   

  

I don’t take the time to do anything for myself anymore either, I used to like doing crafts, reading  and crocheting but I very seldom do that. I went on a holiday to my aunts this year for 10 days, did nothing but read, crochet and shop. I thought that would help but it hasn’t. I do nothing all day at work except play on the computer checking email etc.  

   

  

I don’t know that is causing this depression, I have an idea. In 2000 my mom passed away she was only 53, then that same year I got divorced ( that was a good thing), three weeks after I moved out with my 2 daughters I met someone (that has been a challenge, I have a lot of baggage and 2 teenage daughters) then in 2003 my dad passed away while we where on holidays with him in the Caribbean. That left me real devasted, we were very close and very much alike. I don’t think I every really got a chance to grieve, we have been dealing with his girlfriend at the time, she wasn’t with him long enough to go after the estate so instead she came up with a bogus claim for her personal stuff that she said was in the house but it is stuff that we never saw and may have been in all the stuff that she moved out. 3 years ago my boyfriend moved in with me, we have now been engaged for 2 years. But we always fight and it is usually about my daughters, I am very family orientated including kids but he is not, he doesn’t talk or acknowledge them very much and they don’t like him that much, I think one reason is they are being guarded because of the way he is with them and they don’t want to betray their father. He brought up where the adults and “adult time” I think most of the time it was adult time, but I grew up where the kids are always included and that is how I am I love having kids around.  

   

  

Well there is most of my story I think, but I could really use some advise on what to do till I can get to the dr. next Thursday.  

First links helped me and I have added other links for those, like you, who have spouses with abusive behavior as yours is to your daughters. Have you read FAMILY FIRST by Dr. Phil? Check out hot peach pages for a support group in your area. The rest of the links are for you and others who may be in your same circumstance. You know your situation best so if some of these don't work for you might work for someone else and I just added them all. First link and, also, other two might help you until you see doctor next Thursday. I found the other two links because I usually do what first link advises on Home Care... Keep sharing here too... Nice to meet you. Fear not. Have faith...IN YOU. Hugs and prayers, SEA

www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/003213.htm

www.joelosteen.com/site/PageServer?pagename=FullSchedule

IF YOU'D LIKE TO RECEIVE A FREE DAILY POSITIVE MINUTE E-MAILED TO YOU EACH A.M. JUST GO TO LINK BELOW on hourofpower.org

www.hourofpower.org/email/about.html


I noticed on home page that Dr. Phil is looking for people to be on his Family Feud show and lots of other shows at second link here:

www.drphil.com/plugger/respond/?plugID=9419


www.drphil.com/plugger

First for battered women:

www.hotpeachpages.net/a/countries.html

Second for battered men (I apologize for not knowing most popular link for men because hadn't thought much about men being abused too until show on Dr. Phil of Erin beating her husband.)

www.menweb.org/throop/battery/battery.html

DR. PHIL RESOURCES FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE:

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
www.ncadv.org

National Domestic Violence Hotline
www.ndvh.org

Medline Plus

www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/domesticviolence.html

When Good Men Behave Badly
Dr. David Wexler
The Relationship Training Institute
www.RTIprojects.com

Lori Carter Bell, MSW, LICSW
EMDR Specialist
(Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)
Minneapolis, MN
www.MidwestTraumaAssociates.com

Passionate Marriage
Dr. David Schnarch
www.passionatemarriage.com/schnarch_biography.htm

Resmaa Menakem, MSW
Tubman Family Alliance
www.tubmanfamilyalliance.org
www.stopfamilyviolence.com

Dr. David Wexler
The Relationship Training Institute
www.RTIprojects.com

For those whose problems aren't as big as the above you might want to read RELATIONSHIP RESCUE "IT STARTS WITH YOU":

drphil.com/articles/article/368

www.drphil.com/articles/article/365

drphil.com/articles/article/242
CHILDREN OF FAMILIES IN DISCORD THAT SEE THIS... HERE ARE SOME LINKS FOR YOU TOO AS RUNNING AWAY IS NOT A GOOD IDEA...EVEN IF YOU LIVE IN ANOTHER COUNTRY CONTACT AND ASK FOR HELP NUMBERS IN YOUR COUNTRY...

www.nrscrisisline.org

1-800-RUNAWAY

National Youth Crisis Hotline: 800-448-4663

* About Teen Depression: www.about-teen-depression.com

jo@samaritans.org (e-mail)

www.samaritans.org.uk
 


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