Quote From: allinallexplain to her how much she was hurting him and how what she was doing was damaging the relationship...the way he
ALWAYS does with the men. He concentrated on how to make her feel better about herself and understand that it likely wasn't her fault so she could make the change. Had the man been the woman he would have said get out of the relationship...in no uncertain terms. He just rarely puts the same level of need to change on the women as he does the men.
Let's get very real. Dr. Phil does not hold women to as nearly high a standard of personal responsibility in how they affect the relationship as he does men. I respect Dr. Phil and his overall message. The fact just is that he needs to be a bit kinder (most of the time) to the women because that's his largest viewer base.
Dr Phil has a great amount of respect for women....and that is why he is kind to them. I think he has been taught to talk to women a certain way from childhood....does that mean that he should talk to men differently...no....but I think this is why you see what you do.
Now...I have seen him get real with women on the show....I have! Awhile back he had on the show a family in crisis and he very much thought this wife in this marriage had contributed so much turmoil to this marriage. Maybe....he gets to know his guest a little....maybe he analayzes his guest and knows what style he needs to take with each person.
I don't think he was mean to the guy who used porn....quiet the contary....he called him "honest" when I thought the man had so many justifications and wasn't being honest. The reason he used porn had nothing to do with it being a guy thing....that was just his excuse. The underlining honesty was one thing and one thing only....that he didn't want to stop. The rest...1. i did it since I was a teen 2. all guys do it 3. it is all I have....well those were all just excuses to justify his behavior. Never once did he say "I have a real problem and I need some help to make this right." that to me would have been honest.
so was Phil easier on her than he was on this other porn addict guy....NO!
