Replies to 'The Meaning of "Family"'

i said i made bad choices:manure, but 3 children were begotten: can my children hear me when I say.... they are my garden of roses?  

the fact is when he hurt me, i never called the police for fear of hurting the children, i never called him a rapist til now...... a spade is a spade and i got tired of protecting him 

the police told me to go to victims compensation board to try to recover some monies..... because of the beatings (the children saw this as he dd not beat me in secret and he did throw a wrench at my son's head missing him by 3 inches...... i nearly paralysed on the spot). Because of me having 3 children under 5 and a frail health, i stayed home..... lost my teaching career, pension and all. 

i never told my kids he had raped me, he did, accusing me of taking him to court. 

guys, there are crimes and there are victims.......... i would love to talk to ym kids and beg dr phil to help as i am not a psychologist but know one thing my mom said -bless her memory -smile and the world smiles with you!!!! 

i want the rest of my life to be happy!!!!! i love my kids and will GLADLY acknowledge BUT i need a mastermind like dr phil to design the new garden!!!!!!! i need help as we all do........ 

i taught 13 years: kindergarten was so wonderful as was teaching the severely handicapped..... i did not mind cerebral palsy kids drooling on me!!!!!! i love children!!!!!!  

before you judge me or project your own motherly relationship on me.. we need to talki more as communication is hearing ad listening the other... not blaming!! 

i was not blaming my husband... i was accusing him of a crime against me...... raping a handicapped women seems ..... what can i say........ i am now in a wheelchair -i have broken bones too.....do i want to hurt my kids with these stories???? NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i just want to move on to  a happier more accepting world.......  

i had parents a bit like dr phil and robin....... my father was a family first guy and whatever my mom did was good and he passes the vacuum for her and gave her brakfast in bed 

JOY......... let joy reign.......... help me dr phil; reconnect, ask forgiveness, acknowledge.... help me think clearly thru where i come from, where i have been, where i want to go......... 

thank you for kind words! but he admitted before people how much he hurt me but cannot apologize... so is it surprising my kids have inherited certain traits? from both of us: self-righteousness and lack of empathy.  

how can we start anew? IF there is no communication.....  

the fact is they feel shame and have not been smart enough to see their parents are as good as others if not better in so many other ways. the difference? their friends' parents are still together and a unified family is the ideal. i am glad they feel that!  

i wake up in the morning praying, dear God, let them feel free to love us both!!! denial is such a nasty mask.  

i know dr phil could help but i , we are but a drop in the ocean.  

i miss my family so much but they do not miss me. regrdless, when i had my kids near me, it was the happinest time in my life. i was maybe too idealistic...... move on? ....... how can i when i lived just for family in my older days....... but...... i t is not in my hands!