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July 26, 2005, 1:56 pm PDT
Actually
Quote From: darcyloveDr Phil has a great amount of respect for women....and that is why he is kind to them. I think he has been taught to talk to women a certain way from childhood....does that mean that he should talk to men differently...no....but I think this is why you see what you do.
Now...I have seen him get real with women on the show....I have! Awhile back he had on the show a family in crisis and he very much thought this wife in this marriage had contributed so much turmoil to this marriage. Maybe....he gets to know his guest a little....maybe he analayzes his guest and knows what style he needs to take with each person.
I don't think he was mean to the guy who used porn....quiet the contary....he called him "honest" when I thought the man had so many justifications and wasn't being honest. The reason he used porn had nothing to do with it being a guy thing....that was just his excuse. The underlining honesty was one thing and one thing only....that he didn't want to stop. The rest...1. i did it since I was a teen 2. all guys do it 3. it is all I have....well those were all just excuses to justify his behavior. Never once did he say "I have a real problem and I need some help to make this right." that to me would have been honest.
so was Phil easier on her than he was on this other porn addict guy....NO! The guy who did not see a problem was willing to quit just because it did hurt her. I see no reason for Phil to lash the guy when he is willing to quite just because it caused her harm.
That is not comparible to his giving justifications and being wrong. He was not justifying. He was saying he didn't see a problem outside her not likeing it. Again, sayhing he would quit for that reason alone.
In the vain of his justifying aren't you justifying when you say you don't like porn? Everyone justifys, if you will, when they don't like or do like something, anything and say so?! In my opinion yes they are.
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