Replies to 'Addiction Support'

I am dealing with an individual that I want in so many ways to see them get help. He trys not to drink but it's a never ending failure.  I know in my mind that I can't beat this for for him and I try to give the best advice I can. What made you turn your life around? What was the breaking point.

  Dear Steven, it's a miracle to say the least that you were able to win the fight over drugs and alcohol. My son has been so close. He's accepted he has a problem,detoxed,gone to meetings and had support people.,just never can stay there. I truly agree that Jesus is the way through this devastating problem. He's only 31 years old and has been in and out of legal trouble for years. Right now he's going to court in three different counties, for theft, illegal trespassing,and assault against a police officer. Needless to say his dad and I are emotionally exhausted. It's gotten so bad that we've gotten him motel rooms to live in because he's made it so he can't be here with us. To be honest, I sometimes think he could get to where he doesn't know who we are and hurt one of us. Tomorrow he's checking into a halfway house he was in the first time he got clean. He's only doing it because he has no where eles to go. This place usually only takes people who have been clean a while,but since they know him there,an exception's going to be made. I just hope he doesn't blow this,he's been drinking heavily for several days. Chances are that in a few weeks he'll be going to prison for one of the charges against him. My heart breaks that it's come to this. He's lost his wife,his family's trust,but worst of all himself. Please pray for him. His name is Dustin. Thank you.

FOR THOSE OF US WHO HAVE FRIENDS AND FAMILY WHO ARE EITHER ADDICTED TO ALCOHOL OR DRUGS OF SOME KIND NEED TO GO TO ALANON - THE GROUPS HELP US TO REALIZE THAT THERE IS NOTHING THAT WE CAN DO - EXCEPT TO HELP OURSELVES.  IF WE OURSELVES CHANGE AND STOP ENABELING - MOST GENERALY THE ONES WITH THE ADDICTION WILL SEE THIS CHANGE IN US AND HOPEFULLY WILL GO TO AA FOR HELP FOR THEMSELVES.  ONE THING THAT IS IMPORTANT IS THAT WE NEED TO STOP ENABELING AND WE NEED TO THINK BEFORE WE SAY ANYTHING - MOST TIMES WE ARE INVITED TO AN ARGUMENT AND WE NEED TO REALIZE THAT WE DON'T NEED TO ATTEND EVERY ARGUEMENT THAT WE ARE INVITED TO. THE WORDS "YOU COULD BE RIGHT" AND THEN TURNING AWAY AND CONTINUING WHATEVER YOU ARE DOING USUALLY WORKS.  YOU ALSO NEED TO THINK WHETHER IT IS TRULY THAT IMPORTANT - IF IT ISN'T THEN DROP IT AND DON'T GO THERE.    AFTER A WHILE WHEN THEY FIGURE OUT THAT YOU AREN'T GOING TO ARGUE - THEY WILL STOP TRYING TO GET YOU TO.  

 

GET IN TOUCH WITH ALANON AND WITH YOUR HIGHER POWER AND YOU WILL FIND THAT THEY BOTH WILL GIVE YOU THE STRENGTH TO GET THROUGH. 

 

TRULY ALANON IS ONE OF THE BEST SUPPORT GROUPS EVER - YOU ARE FREE TO SAY WHATEVER IS BOTHERING YOU AND WE ALL HAVE BEEN THERE SO WHATEVER YOUR PROBLEM - YOU CAN GET SUPPORT THERE AND NO ONE WILL EVER SPEAK ABOUT ANYTHING OUTSIDE OF THE ALANON ROOMS.  I HAVE BEEN IN ALANON FOR 8 YEARS NOW AND I KNOW THAT I WILL NEED IT FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE.  MY PARENTS WERE BOTH ALCOHOLICS - I HAVE BEEN MARRIED 3 TIMES AND YUP THAT'S RIGHT - ALL ALCOHOLICS!!!   AND NOW MY ONE AND ONLY SON IS A DRUG ADDICT. 

 

GROWING UP IN ALCOHOLIC ENVIRONMENT KIND OF LETS YOU THINK THAT THIS IS "NORMAL".  WHAT I HAVE LEARNED IS THAT NORMAL IS ONLY A SETTING ON A DRYER.........

 

YOU CAN GO ON LINE TO FIND ALANON OR IN YOUR LOCAL TELEPHONE BOOKS - IT WILL BE THE BEST CHANGE YOU EVER MADE IN YOUR LIVES!!!