Replies to 'Sports and Kids'
|
November 12, 2006, 7:39 am PST
 Quote From: jettav My children are not missing anything, My daughter has never shown an interest in a sport and yes, she has several friends who play soccer and in dance. Like I said, she is interested in art and music therefore that is what she is involved in. I even gave her choices and she is sticking with the music lessons. I think a parent who is alert and knows their kids personalities and know what they enjoy and have their kids best interests at hand, then their child will be successful. My children are very social and active and I am not gonna suggest something to them that they are not interested in, I will suggest things that go right along with their personalities. It's just like with her schooling, I talked about homeschooling and though we are still considering it for the future, we put her in a private school, why? because she likes the school setting and wanted to go. I am very flexible with my kids and they are experiencing life to it's fullest, my daughter knows what she wants and just like her mommy, she goes after it and I am sure as she grows older, her interests will change as we all experience those kind of changes in life and when those times come, I am very alert and open, in the meantime, she is particiapating in art and music programs for this is where she is. As for my three year old, who knows! Sse is too young for a sport so we are not going there, she does like music and art as well, but not sure where that is going yet, she would much rather play with friends, that's all she talks about, playing with her "best" friends and for now, that is all she needs. She is in the bell choir at church but even then, she has to be in the mood, if she doesn't want to participate, she just walks off stage,LOLLLL. So, it will be interesting where her little life takes her in the next year or so. So inr reality, I am not keeping my kids form anything, for those on these message boards, it might look like that, but I can honestly sit here and say,that is far far from the truth, my kids are a very high prioroy in my home and their daddy and I have the desire for them to be happy and fullfilled therefore we will follow our parenting instincts to make that happen and it doesn't have to conform to anyone elses agenda or ideas, but what suits our girls personalites and desires. There is nothing missing my girls life and for that I am thankful. Jetta, I do not understand where your defensiveness comes from. I never said or implied they were missing anything. I was trying to say you don't really know what they like until they try something. For example, your daughter's interest in art/music came from somewhere. Without that exposure (wherever it came from) she may not have the interest she does now. Seems to me you have issues and for that I'm sorry. Yes, it does seem from these boards you are very overprotective but you've made it clear you like it that way. That's OK but don't expect everyone to agree. You have mentioned that is doesn't bother you but it's obvious that it does or you wouldn't lash out like you do. I know we have different opinions on a lot of things but you don't seem to even want to listen to anyone but yourself talk about children. Despite what you think and your schooling, you are not always right. My children are a few years older and they are boys so my parenting experience is very different from yours. Sports are a great tool for a lot of reasons. Maybe you don't want your girls playing because you're scared they might get hurt. Been there, done that. My older son plays goalie and let me tell you I can't hardly watch sometimes! But, HE loves it and wants to do it. How dare you think all kids who play sports are pushed-again shows your naivete in this area! I think for all of us are children are a high priority in the home so you statement is really obnoxious "my kids are a very high prioroy in my home and their daddy and I have the desire for them to be happy and fullfilled.." "There is nothing missing my girls life and for that I am thankful." Why do you get like this? I specifically came to this board figuring I would never see you on here and guess what? Here you are...talking about something that you are not going through. You do this a lot and I wonder why. Generally, when people ask advice (you have to be careful they are asking not just venting) they typically want strategies from others who have been through something similar. They don't want to hear your life story over and over. Most parents who are truly confident in their styles and beliefs do not need to go into this type of forum and repeatedly talk about it to everyone. I think it's safe to say that most of us are pretty "alert and open" to our kids wants/needs. My kids are not missing anything either playing sports. In fact, I think they are gaining skills they can use later in life. A lot of parents who participate in sports feel this way. That's what THIS board is about...sports and kids. If you are not experiencing this yet for whatever reason, that is OK, too. You don't have to be involved and give advice on every child-related topic out there to prove you are a good parent. |
|
Return to the Message Board