Quote From: granoffiveOur son, age 49 and born deaf, holds a good job and lives in hi co-op apt. but I'm afraid he'll lose both someday. He was evicted, a 2-year process, but we disovered it when they locked his door. After many court appearances etc. tons of newspapers papers were hauled out and he kept the apt. But he still has problems, made more difficult by his denial of problems until they become critical, and because he was born in 1957 when educators of the deaf believed in "the Oral Method", not allowing babies and toddlers to learn sign language! It was he worst mistake in education of the deaf! Most deaf people in his age group, taught orally and denied sign as young children are difficient in grammar and communication skills as a result of this. His latest problem is losing the use of his car because his auto insurance bill got lost in the mounting pile of mail on his dinette table and insurance was cancelled for non-payment. I'm trying to convince him that he must turn in his license plates immediately. My husband, another procrastinator, is of no help.
I've seen this just the other day actually. A friend and I were asked to help this 80yr. old woman clean her apt. for inspection. We couldn't move! I actually had a panic attack! She keeps everything! She moved into her apt. 7 yrs. ago she said the boy who moved her in gave her a bottle of beer on that day ..... we found it in the fridge. She keeps egg cartons, milk jugs,broken styrofoam coolers. She has no room in her cupboards for dishes so she stacks them everywhere in precarious little stacks. We did what we could but there was so much more needing done. In her case, I think she's lonely and her "stuff" has become her companions.
I know what it's like to have a hubby who procrastinates. His motto... why do today what you can put off until tomorrow,after all tomorrow may never come then you'll have wasted the effort.
