Replies to 'Pornography'

Hi Seekingzen.

My 3 year-old-daughter found a rather sexy dvd my huband thought he had hidden well (she just went straight to this drawer and opened it - hehe - thank you God!).  I was furious.  Years before, ny 11-year-old found that someone had been on a porn site.  It was hard trying to come up with cover up excuses for that one.  I think she knew my husband had been on it.  What an idiot.  He last thing I want is my kids finding that stuff. 

My husband at least was reasonably straight up and answered my questions about the vid, he'd been watching movies for sex scenes and had even got out a porn (a first for him).  I was so hurt.  He has sexual difficulties, and I have been trying to get him to work through a programme with me so he can get it sorted, but he keeps making excuses.  So when I found the porn I was so mad at him - that's not how you sort out difficulties. 

I remember I went through a time when I was really struggling with my thought life and wanting to watch porn too (not that I ever have), and it wasn't until I worked through some issues that the whole raging desire was broken.  It was a really weird time.  Sometimes when there is brokenness in areas of your life, the symptoms come out in different ways.  I think watching porn is one.  Luckily, I have married friends who had been through the same problem and were good enough to be open about it with us.  If you have kids, I really believe it is best to try and sort it out - divorce sucks.  But if you are going to work it out, don't use it as dirty laundry in fights.  If you are a Christian, there are great programmes such as 'Living waters' that deal with sexual issues including lust, misogyny, homosexuality, porn, all sorts.  Awesome stuff if you're not afraid to face your ugly side!