Quote From: ss4realMy mother and her sister have hated each other since, well since they were kids. When they'd walk to school together as kids my aunt would make my mom walk on the other side of the road. She told my mom she wasn't pretty enough, smart enough and good enough to walk on her side. My mom spent half of her life feeling insecure and had to handle a great deal of depression. Well, my family endured many disappointing holidays because the two of them had to be in the same room together. My brother and I grew up, with the blame that it was my mom's fault for ruining the holidays again! It finally took my grandfather's passing for me to realize and to see what kind of an abuser my aunt really is. What hatefulness she has in her heart that for some reason we as kids thought it to be our mom's fault. I am guilty that I ever thought for a moment that my mom was embarrassing us, or ruining our holidays. My aunt doesn't call anyone in her family. She hates all the relatives, yet she seems to think that calling me once in awhile is acceptable. I wish I could stick up for my family and give my mother the true respect that she deserves. I say nothing but I think its because I know my aunt is sick. I see now that 90 % of what my family has had to go through with each other stems from one person. My mom's sister. The good news is that although my mom and dad are divorced, us kids will always have a good relationship with our parents and each other. The cycle has broke so to speak (at least for us). I think its wonderful if family can restore their love for each other but in some cases it isn't so. My grandparents are gone now and my mother finally has a chance at some peace. She will never have to deal with her sister again and this is truly a good thing. After all these years (58 to be exact) she finally has a chance to move forward in her life. I'm 33 years old and it has taken me this long to get here, but I finally see the pain that my mom has gone through in her hole life. I wouldn't wish this kind of pain on my worst enemy. And I hate the fact that my mom was robed of having a "normal" childhood. My aunt and her family might have all the money and material things today but my mom has more than her sister will ever know. And for that I feel really sorry for her.
Hi,
Your story was refreshing. I can relate to it. However, in my case, it is with my brother. He was either nice to me at times, or, verbally abusive at times. Then, he married a woman who was mean to me. He and I didn't talk for a few years until recently when my mom got sick. He and I hugged, and, my daughter was able to finally meet him. I miss him, and, would do anything to get together and try it again with he and his wife, am scared of rejection. Have any advice?
