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redneon
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September 10, 2005, 2:06 pm PDT

seems like

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 im a 34 year old female i am married to a wonderful guy. but it is me who has no sex drive he would have it 24/7 if he could he gets mad at me because i tell him no. i do believe there is something wrong with me . i could care less that i have it. It makes it even worse when he drinks he is a alcholic and i hate it when he drinks. so that has alot to do with it but i dont want it anytime . i can think about it and want it but when it comes down to the time to actually have sex i dont want it we have been mariied it will be 6 years in dec. been together 8 years. sex was pretty good in the begining. i have asked doctors and they dont seem to know im scarred i want the drive back im afraid my husband will leave me or worse go find it somewhere else

the main problem is your relationship, not the amount of sex you want or don't want. If he is an alcoholic then why are you scared that he might leave you? Seems like he has turned you off totally, sepecially since you say you think about sex and want it but when it comes down to having sex with him you don't want it. You might be doing yourself and him a favor if you left. 

  

Untill he gets help for this drinking(maybe AA) and you get some help(maybe Alanon)to deal with how erroded your relationship is...you won't be getting your sex drive back anytime soon. Good luck ~Red 
 
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September 11, 2005, 10:40 am PDT

im sorry

Quote From: ljdillow92

 im a 34 year old female i am married to a wonderful guy. but it is me who has no sex drive he would have it 24/7 if he could he gets mad at me because i tell him no. i do believe there is something wrong with me . i could care less that i have it. It makes it even worse when he drinks he is a alcholic and i hate it when he drinks. so that has alot to do with it but i dont want it anytime . i can think about it and want it but when it comes down to the time to actually have sex i dont want it we have been mariied it will be 6 years in dec. been together 8 years. sex was pretty good in the begining. i have asked doctors and they dont seem to know im scarred i want the drive back im afraid my husband will leave me or worse go find it somewhere else

i think it sounds like you are not interested in sex because you have so many feelings of anger/stress twards your husband. i have experanced the same with my boyfriend of 8 years. he has stressed me out so much i cant even look at him. do you feel like this? about his drinking? i think you should not feel pressure to have to do it in an exstreem way. i feel alot of a womens sex drive rests in her head, your not happy and its effecting your sex life. its ok to think of yourself. 

good luck  

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